(Closed) Who did you tell first? How did they react?

posted 10 years ago in Proposals
Post # 47
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Of my two best friends I called the one who came first alphabetically in my phone first, and the second one second in the car on the way to tell my parents in person.

They both said “Yay I get to be a bridesmaid!”

Post # 48
3315 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was the one doing the proposing in our case.  The first people we told were my two children.  And we asked each of them to be in our wedding at the same time.

As for reactions:  My daughter enthusiastically agreed to be our maid of honor.  My son said he would have to “think about” being our best man.  After a couple of weeks, when we pressed him on this, he said that a “best man” is a groom’s attendant, and as we had no groom, he couldn’t be that.  After some discussion, he became “dude of honor.”

Post # 49
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My Fiance had asked my dad that day so when I came over to my parents house, there was my Fiance and my dad sitting in the living room looking very guilty – I figured something was up. So my dad called my mom and the news spread around my family. I was VERY surprised I didn’t get any hints of it. He proposed around 8:30pm that day and I immediatly called my mom and dad who were so happy, called my sisters and then friends. That night, we went to everyone’s house to show them the ring and celebrate, everyone gave my Fiance a hug and welcomed him into the family – very sweet!

Post # 50
7 posts
  • Wedding: January 2003

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Love and hugs


Post # 51
7 posts
  • Wedding: January 2003

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Yep I know how you feel. I traveled and it was SO hard when both my grandmom and mom were ill across country.

Here’s something you can do that will help. Go with your photographer to your   grandmoms (however you can get there.) Plan a trip to see her somehow. Train, car however, before your big day. Bring your wedding book with you and show her all the details and something that will represent her there at your wedding on your wedding day whether it be an image of her on your bouquet as a picture charm or a rose at your family table and tell her you are doing this for her, and how much you love her. (We have even had one bride bring her dress and try it on with her grandmom if you can handle it and if it would not be to much excitement for her.)

 That would be a very powerful moment and memory for the both of you.

If she is well enough; after she has had a little more time to recover do a shoot with your photographer with her.

 Be very loving and gentle and relaxed about the shoot;(don’t make a big deal of it, it could be just with you and her sitting and you holding hands talking.(you never know until you ask if your photographer can do this with you. They might have a few days and would love to take a trip with you or have a friend in her area who would help out).  Bring one of those photos the day of and display it somewhere and ask your photographer to take a picture of it that  day and you with the photo too.

Immediately after the wedding ask your photographer to overnight a photo or two to your grandmom with a personal note hand written by you before the wedding of how much you love her, and the photo of how you represented her at your wedding.

Hope this helps.

Love and hugs,

New bee


Post # 52
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2007

We had been talking about it for ages, but teasing/mucking about talking about it (although we’d been together 8 years by then :)) so I wasn’t really expecting anything at that point! Turns out, he had decided that he wanted to propose around Christmas time, but didn’t want to ask my parents until he had the ring as my Mom is terrible at keeping secrets! So in the middle of January, he found the ring in London when he was down visiting his brother and he brought it home planning to ask sometime over the next month. He didn’t want to propose on Valentine’s Day, and my birthday is exactly a week after Valentines Day’s, so he got it into his head that he had to propose before Valentines Day somehow!

So I go up to visit him for the weekend, not having a clue about his plan to propose, and it is a freezing cold, rainy, horrible February day in Scotland. He wanted to go flying and ask me when he was flying (years ago, when we first got together, he took me flying & made me look in his bag for some thing or other, and instead I found a cute bear he had got me which I love to bits :)!!) so he had wanted to propose the same way as he is a pilot. But it was too rainy to go flying, so he took me up to this old fort place which overlooks the sea and got down on one knee and proposed there 🙂

I immediately wanted to call my parents and as I do, he then says, wait, I haven’t asked your parents yet… I was gutted! I have ALWAYS been adament that I wanted him to ask my parents before he asked me, but he told me he had been phoning them all week, and no one answered the phone, or my Grandad picked up the phone & then hung up. The one time he got my Mom she started telling him about the movie they were going to see, and then said they had to go. So he just decided to ask me anyway! I still get really emotional about that! So I asked him if he would phone my parents and ask them before we told them (we knew their answer would be yes, they had been on at us for ages asking when we were getting engaged!) and we couldn’t get through to my parents for HOURS… Eventually about 8 hours after we got engaged, he got through to my Dad and just asked him straight out – my Dad’s response was ‘Of course, if you didn’t marry her soon, I was going to insist!’ and Mom’s response was a happy scream and then to phone half the family and have a party – but they didn’t know he had asked me yet and that I had said yes, they just had a party & told everyone happily without us telling them!!!

A while later, I managed to get them on the phone and tell them and had happy shrieks. That part of his proposal still makes me so emotional, between trying to get hold of parents, to my Mom having a party before she knew I had said yes, to shrieking with joy telling my parents 🙂

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