Post # 1
I just had the big final meeting with my planner yesterday, and it caused me to have wedding-related stress dreams all night last night. I am looking forward to my wedding, but I will be so glad when I don’t have to plan it anymore! In fact, my entire adult life I dreaded the idea that I might one day have to plan a wedding. Hell, I hired a planner for this reason, but I still think it’s too much work, too much money, too many details!!
and honestly, even if I had a small backyard wedding, I would still hate the planning part of it. so it’s not necessarily the size that’s killing me. I am just not a planner, LOL!
for me, it’s a means to an end. a necessary evil. yes, I want a nice party. but I have to work for it!
So, bees, I’m starting a poll: do you love wedding planning, or do you hate it? or somewhere in-between?
Post # 3
I’m about the same as you, which is why I also hired a planner. I do love life with the planner though. It cut out all the research 🙂 Plus, she’s extra awesome since I’m planning from overseas.
There’s some parts I like and some parts I don’t. I liked researching for a photographer because that’s important to me. I don’t care about flowers though, so I’m kind of glad I don’t have to look.
Post # 4
I hated planning mine, which is why we ended up having our wedding/reception at a restaurant.
That way, we didn’t really have to mess with too many details (linen colors? IDGAF!). They took care of everything from setting up/taking down the ceremony chairs to arranging the permits for rental of the neighboring observation deck we used for the ceremony.
It was great. I didn’t even need to hire a DOC.
Post # 4
I really did not enjoy wedding planning. I won’t say hate, but . . . it wasn’t fun. Every meeting with our venue and vendors was stressful for me. So many questions I couldn’t answer, so many details I just did not care about. Ha! This is why we had a short engagement. I can’t imagine enduring that stuff for six months…or a year…or more. The wedding itself, though? Loved every minute of it!
Post # 5
you wanna know what my stress dream was? that the hair stylist refused to do my suggestted changes (in real life, I want to ask for a modification to the trial hairstyle she gave me).
in the dream, she said that she had to stick to the agreed-upon style from the trial, that it is in the contract. so I threatened to fire her. then I worried she and her makeup artist would do a really bad job on purpose just to get back at me for yelling at her. what a ridiculous dream!
Post # 6
Hated every minute of it. Loved our vendors because they were total mind-readers and made my life a lot easier, but still, you couldn’t pay me to go through it all again.
Post # 7
I def don’t hateeee the planning, but I strongly dislike it. I’m just like whatever, everything will fall into place and when I get to it, I get to it. Which is weird b/c I am a very antsy, organized anxious person and you would think I’d be this way plannig my own wedding!
I just feel it’ll all come together, take 1 thing at a time, and take help from anyone who will help you along the way.
Post # 8
I have my moments when I hate it.
For example, when I’m at work, in the middle of something important, and some random person tries to strike up a conversation about the wedding and proceeds to give completely unsolicited (and usually terrible) advice. Why don’t people realize that a wedding in 2011 is not the same at 1977?? Thank you for your advice but I don’t want to chat about weddings with you!! AHHHH.
Sorry I’m having a rough day lol
Post # 9
ugh weddings! So stressful.
They suck to plan and if you elope people just complain at you. It’s like a lose-lose situation!
Post # 10
i get wedding related diarrhea after any big meeting. i could definitely do without that.
Post # 11
I think I like it… I like planning things in general. But I’m not down to the last minute stress yet…I’m sure when it gets down to less than a month I will feel differently!
Post # 12
@peanuthead: oh no!! that sucks big time.
Post # 13
I’m very glad I am planning a small wedding. I think that having to worry about more details would probably make me lose it and cancel the whole thing. My mantra has been to keep things simple, but hight quality. My Future Mother-In-Law thinks I am crazy for starting planning about 6 mths out and not wanting to be inundated with details. She’d have loved for me to micromanage everything along with her and plan for a year or more.
Post # 14
your not alone OP, Just the thought of wedding planning gets to me I have seen so many women go out of their mind with stress during the planning and I just dont want to associate that with the happiest day of my life so I will be having a very small laid back destination wedding.(I really dont give a flip about colors or flowers or who wears what is just not my thing I guess) I envy the women who can plan a huge wedding and not let it get to them and are so into planning every little detail I just know I would not be able to handle it. I am sure your wedding is going to be beautiful and the stress will be worth it in the end 🙂 I have always heard dreams are just your brains way of working things out
Post # 15
I do not enjoy planning. I don’t like being a hostess or having out of town guests, or being in charge. I make a much better bridesmaid than a bride, LOL!
I think I need to bite the bullet and hire a planner, too. I have been engaged since 2006 (for various reasons) and just need to get it done at this point.