Post # 1
Hi! I am stuck on who I am supposed to invite to my bachelorette party. My fiance’s opinion is the more the merrier-and he is going camping with any guys who want to go. But I am renting a house for a weekend and although I love all the girls invited to my wedding shower, I am nervous about having 25+ young, drunk women in a house together for my bachelorette. I (my mom) invited 40 people to my wedding shower, am I required by ettiquette to invite all my friends who are invited to the shower to the bachelorette as well?(not talking about Aunts/and obvious no’s, I have a lot of girlfriends). I don’t want anyone’s feelings to be hurt. Especially people who are in the same group of friends! Any advise?
Post # 3
First of all, you shouldn’t be inviting anyone to your bachelorette. That should be done by your Maid/Matron of Honor, who should be hosting your bachelorette. But, of course, you are allowed input on the guest list. I say suggest who you would like. If it’s not everyone at the shower that’s okay. Maybe let word of mouth spread that you just wanted tiem to bond with your bridesmaids, or something like that.
Post # 4
my shower had every female on the guestlist invited. not everyone came. my bachlorette was just my bridesmaids and i.
Post # 5
I second what asianyoushi said. I invited (almost) all of the female’s on the guestlist to the bridal shower but my bachelorette party will just be wedding party and sisters of the groom
Post # 6
No, the bachelorette party is for your closest girlfriends.
Post # 7
Your bachelorette should be your Maid/Matron of Honor, bridesmaids, female relatives and friends who are actually invited to the wedding. I wouldn’t invite people to your bachelorette who arent already invited to the wedding because that can cause awkwardness, they could assume they are invited to the wedding, or worse…you could drunk invite them and then have huge regrettes later on down the road.
Your bridal shower should be for the mothers, grandmothers, aunts, your Maid/Matron of Honor and your bridemaids and any close close friends. You shouldn’t be inviting 40+ friends just because. A bridal shower generally is a gift giving event so it should be your nearest and dearest.
You actually have the two events backwards…your bachelorette party is for you and your friends and your bridal shower is for your CLOSE family, wedding party and SUPER close friends only.