Post # 1
I live in Vegas with 3 of my BM’s and the other 3 including my Maid/Matron of Honor lives in San Diego. The girls in SD suggested that I and the other 3 BM’s go to SD for the parties since it will be less costly for us to go there. I also dreamt of going to Mexico or Miami for my bachelorette party but due to the hard economical times right now, my wishes can’t be granted. No worries… I’m not mad about that. Only because I live in Vegas already and I want to party somewhere else. Although I’d rather party in Vegas then San Diego. I mean the clubs there close at 2AM as oppose to Vegas 24 Hours. Well, I’ve agreed to going there just as long as my parties will be lots of fun! I’m pretty sure it will cause my family is crazily fun. My family loves to drink and party and yes, we are still young. In which I don’t have any hesitation inviting my friends to join and they are also up for anything. I am hesitating on inviting my future in-laws. They’re a bit older, they have kids, their partying days are over and I highly doubt they will travel for me to SD. The in-laws live in Vegas too so it shouldn’t be a big deal.
Do I invite the in-laws and hope that they will come even though I feel there is a 99% chance they will not make it. It would suck that they missed out on my shower and bachelorette party. I’m hoping they will throw me a shower here in Vegas if they miss out and that way it will include all of his family members. I mean some people have more than one showers sometimes, right.
I anticipate about 150 guests. Which consist of all family members and about 30 friends for both Fiance and I.
Do I invite all the females attending the wedding to my parties since it’s mostly family? That will be like a mini-wedding in itself. Lol
How do you determine your guest list for your parties.
My Fiance says to just invite his mom, sisters and in-laws and if they don’t go, they don’t go. He also says he’s sure they will throw us a couples shower if they can’t make it to your "naughty parties" in San Diego.
Sorry for the long post. I’m just a confused bride!
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s customary to invite your future mother-in-law to your bachelorette party. I definitely don’t think you’re obligated.
If you’re inviting your mom, however, and want to include your Future Mother-In-Law, go for it!
It is probably a good idea to invite his sisters and SILs, especially if they are in the bridal party.
Otherwise I would just stick to the ladies you feel close to. No need to invite the whole family!
Post # 4
I might be slightly confused here, but are you having both a Bridal Shower and Bachelorette Party in San Diego?
I would say invite the girls to the bachelorette party in San Diego. If you want to do something with the family maybe have one of the parents host a bridal shower in Las Vegas. This would satisfy all parties maybe?
Post # 5
Yes, bridal shower in the day time and bachelorette party at night. I’m positive they won’t attend the bachelorette party but perhaps the bridal shower. Is that customary to not to invite the in-laws? His sisters aren’t bridesmaid but they will be sponsors (god parents – Filipino Tradition). Well I definitely don’t want to start any drama for not inviting them. Maybe I’ll just include them in the invite anyway but do I include my Fiance aunts & Fiance cousins (Groomsman) girlfriend?
Post # 6
I always though the shower was planned for the bride andnot by the bride. When I was last a Bridesmaid or Best Man, the Maid/Matron of Honor (sister of the bride) and bride’s mom took care of the guest list for her side of the family and asked the groom’s mother who should be invited from his side of the family. I got the impression that all women invited to the wedding were invited to the shower, we had about 70 people at the shower. Is it typical for a bride to plan her own shower? I don’t have much experience.
The bachelorette party is different, I think you can invite whomever you want to that. I’ve been to bachelorette’s where they did something during the day including mothers, aunts, young sisters, nieces, jr. bridesmaids (BBQ, bowling, etc) and then the bride and her BMs and friends went out in the evening. Maybe you can somehow incorporate your Father-In-Law if they travel to SD.