(Closed) Who do I invite to the shower?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’s really up to you or the hosts who you invite, just DO NOT invite people to the shower who are not invited to the wedding, thats in poor taste.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Yes, I agree with it’s up to the host.  My aunt hosted a shower for me and it was a per/person charge because it was at a restaurant, so it came down to it being just two side of my family.  No one but my Future Mother-In-Law was invited on my FI’s side because it would’ve been very pricey and my friends were limited as well.

But I wanted to have a nice gathering with my friends, so my mom is throwing me a luncheon in mid-Sept with my girlfriends.  Not a shower.  No gifts.  And it’s also a good way for them to meet each other since they will all be at the wedding.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i am having a tea party themed shower. my mom and moh are throwing it for me and it is going to be at my aunts house…. so i am going to invite all the women i am inviting to the wedding…. which could be close to 80, although im sure only about half of those will actually come:) i think its really personal preference 😉

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I have seen some showers that are so extreme that they resemble a wedding reception. I believe the people planning should save their money and showers should be a casual “family” like event. It should be simple enough so that you can invite everyone you would like to invite. Which should be all the women you are inviting to the wedding.

This day is about showering the couple with gifts so why not invite everyone. Just dont ge upset when only half show. Also, instead of spending the big bucks on the fancy food and fancy decor, spend the extra on the favors. Give them a special thanks that those whom do not attend (bc a lot of people find showers boring) will be green with envy over.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

All my local female relatives, my FI’s mom, step-mom, grandma, and sister, and *maybe* my friends that live within 2hrs. I’m very iffy on if i’m inviting friends or not. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m having a smaller wedding so I invited all of the women to the shower.  That has been pretty much standard for all of the showers in my family, but I know it doesn’t have to be that way (you can just stick to the people you’re closest with if you’re having a bigger wedding).

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I also had a small wedding that was mostly family and a few friends, so my Maid/Matron of Honor invited all ladies to my shower.

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am inviting the entire bridal party, my close aunts and cousins, close family friends [who are women] and the MOG and her sisters. It’s not going to be a huge party so I didn’t invite all of the women in my family. It really depends on your wedding size, budget for the shower and how intimate you want it. 

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