(Closed) Who do I pick?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would just have your one cousin and your friends.  If you’re going to leave somebody out, it makes sense that it’s three people, rather than just the one cousin.

Plus, I’m a huge advocate for really just having the people you WANT.  It’s often a huge expense to be in a wedding.  It’s possible your cousins will be relieved.

Post # 4
1165 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@SapphireSun: Completely agree.  Have who you truly want to be up there with you.

Post # 5
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m in a similar situation as you are. I have a very close-knit family. I had three girls picked, and there are 4 guys in the groom’s party. So that left me with one person to pick. I have two girl cousins that i’m close to, but I had to pick one. Plus, one is my age, and the other is much younger. I chose the one I am close to, and am having my younger cousin play guitar during my ceremony. Win/win. I can tell the younger cousin is a little bitter, but as @SapphireSun said, it’s YOUR wedding.

I say have who you WANT in your party. Maybe there’s another way for the others to be involved?

Post # 6
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You need to have the people you want and are closest too. It is hard sometimes. It was hard for me to not include some people and even harder when I had to demote my sisters from MOH’s and promote my best friend but in the end eveybody understoon and it was for the best. Because, those are the people you are going to have to A) put up with through this whole crazy process and B) going to have to be able to really trust and be able to lean on ON your wedding day. Besides, Its YOUR day. You only get this day once so have it the way YOU want!

Post # 7
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ditto the above. Have those you really want up there in your wedding. J can be the ‘family representation,’ there’s no reason to have the twins and another cousin out of obligation. Like @SapphireSun: said, leaving 3 out is better than just 1. Your family shouldn’t get riled. 

Post # 8
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with having the people that you really what up there with you. Do what is best for you.

Does your Fiance have any close female’s in his family (or even a close female friend) that he would want in the wedding. I know we made it a point to include his family/friends in ours as well… just an idea.


The topic ‘Who do I pick?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors