(Closed) Who do I take with me to look at dresses?

posted 7 years ago in Dress
  • poll:
    My mom, Fiance's mom, Sister, Best friend and Best friends mom (my "other mother") : (0 votes)
    Just my mom : (1 votes)
    50 %
    Just my mom and my fiance's mom : (0 votes)
    My mom, my sister & my best friend : (1 votes)
    50 %
    No one. Just go alone. : (0 votes)
    Invite everyone, includining third bridesmaid so she doesn't feel left out : (0 votes)
    Other. Explain below. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    1126 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I would take fewer people with you the first time.  One, maybe two.  It’ll just get really crowded and there will be too many opinions if you take everyone right away.  Once you’ve zeroed in on a few dresses, you can bring other people back to the shop to show them off and get their opinions.

    Make sure the person you bring is not melodramatic and has similar tastes to you (or can keep their mouth shut if they don’t).  It can be a stressful experience, and the last thing you want is a bunch of people confusing you or making you feel bad about your choices.

    I brought my mom initially, a friend when I went back to pay for the dress, and my fiance’s mother once it came in and I tried it on.  It was much more relaxing than bringing a ton of people at once.

    Post # 4
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    476 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I took my mom, my very close aunt and a a bridesmaid. I sent an e-mail of the top choices to MOG & other bridesmaids so they felt involved.

    Post # 5
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    2116 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I brought my mom to choose it. We then put it on hold and brought my Maid/Matron of Honor with on they day we bought it. I didn’t want a million opinions. At the end of the day, the decision was on me (and my mom because she paid for it).. but point is, the day can be really stressful so i suggest as small of a posse as possible

    Post # 6
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    642 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @HisBride2Bee: You should take you listed…who you want to take.  I went the first time with my sister and step-mom, but I feel like I ended up trying on dresses they wanted me to try on, most of which weren’t even my style.  Actually, they dragged me dress shopping and it was before I even looked in bridal magazines.  The next time I went with my two best friends and had a list of designers and dress styles.  This was much better.  Then last two times (including when I purchased my dress), I went shopping on my own.  it was great not to have any other opinions clouding my judgement.  However, it was mostly due to the fact that none of my friends or family live less than a plan ride away (I was visiting them when we shopped together). 

    Just take who you want to take and if you choose to go alone at some point, that’s okay too 🙂

    Post # 7
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    23607 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    For most of the shopping process, I brought just my mom.  The day I found my dress, I didn’t know it would be the dress but I had my cousin, 2 girl friends, and my mom.  When I was down to 3 dresses, I actually went with just my dad and had him choose my dress!  This being said, I do agree that less people at a time will make it easier for you to find *your* dress. But if you want the special experience, why not split up who goes on certain trips?

    Post # 8
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    646 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I live far away from my family, so I went shopping when I was “back home” in Minnesota. My bridesmaids are in CA, WI, and NY, so none of them were able to make it, but it worked out for the best. I spent the morning shopping with JUST my mom (though the bridal shop owner is a friend from college) and my sisters met up with us at lunch. By that time, I had narrowed it down to a “top five” and my three sisters and mom threw in their opinions. (I had two favorites, I ultimately decided on one over the other due to some unruly tulle at the bottom of the dress I didn’t choose.)

    Anyway, by that time I had pretty much made up my mind so my sisters gave opinions, but were definately watching my reactions. 🙂

    We went to one store after that where I tried on tons more dresses. But I was stuck.

    It was really fun! Also, I went during the day on a Thursday, so the salon was empty, which was awesome!

    Post # 9
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    1398 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I think you should just take your Mom. It will mean the most to her, and I think that a bunch of other people will just delute the experience. Bring the entourage when you go back for your fitting so they can see it.

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