(Closed) Who do I tip?

posted 6 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

For the wedding, the only vendor I am tipping is the salon. Everyone else has a tip/service charge built in (caterer/bartender) or is charging a rate that does not expect a tip.

If we were getting a car service, I would tip them as well.

Post # 4
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2286 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Catering / bartending staff: 18-20% of the labor, or $15-20 / person

Band members: $20-25/person

Hair/Make Up stylists: 10-20 %

Photographer and videographer usually get a gift

All other’s I’d tip only if they provide excellent service

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

I heard if the vendor is the owner of their own company (for example Rob S is owner of Rob S photography) you’re not obligated to tip. I would feel cheap not tipping though…

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@FortiesFlare:  Aren’t the tips included in the price? Geez, with how this is adding up, I am very happy I won’t be getting married traditionally 😛

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@FortiesFlare:  Hair and nail salons, yes. But if I have already paid the grat within the price, I would not be giving extra. You were already billed for it. It doesn’t seem like an effective use of money to me :-

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@FortiesFlare: I don’t think the “service charge” = tips for the actual waitstaff.  I know I’ve seen threads about this in the past…. maybe try searching through those?

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@FortiesFlare:  I am not an expert by any means, so I would leave the “right” answer to the etiquette queens. However, I would say that logically if the grat is included in the price, it is illogical to pay a second grat (I don’t know your financial situation, but maybe that is something easy for you to do – it wouldn’t be for us).

The salons that are providing you a service would get a tip, but I’ve never heard of anyone tipping a DJ or photog (and I have friends who are DJs and photogs). The prices are already astronomical to begin with :S However, I guess it comes down to whatever you are comfortable with. I am not big on paying people to do their jobs (when I’ve just finished paying them for doing their jobs).

*waits for people to throw rocks at her*

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@FortiesFlare:  (@lealorali:  Yup, this is true.) For instance, if you have a photographer that owns their own company and receives everything you pay them versus a photographer that works for a large studio and only receives a small percentage of the total bill. Even if you are not obligated to tip certain vendors, it is a way to express your gratitude to vendors that went above and beyond. I’ve also heard of brides sending sweet gifts to vendors after the wedding as a thank you. Here is a general guideline I found for wedding gratuity: http://www.weddingpaperdivas.com/wedding-gratuity-guidelines.htm

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