Who do women dress for?

posted 5 months ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Who do women dress for?
    Other women : (11 votes)
    12 %
    Themselves : (63 votes)
    67 %
    Men : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Other : (17 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 2
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    Depends on the occasion. Most of the time I dress for me. And sometimes when I dress “for” men I’m dressed for men to leave me alone, not for their attention. 

    Not cut and dry.

    Post # 4
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    267 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I am definitely aware of what I think looks good on other women and try to choose things that look good on me based on that……. but I also live in yoga clothes 95% of the time and that’s 100% for me 

    Post # 5
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    2126 posts
    Buzzing bee

    rheedic :  I can relate to this…especially now. Like when I’m going grocery shopping sometimes I look like shit on purpose because I don’t wanna be bothered lmao

     

    ETA: I think like yoga pants/athleisure is comfy and wear it 100% “for me”, but a while ago I stumbled across a post on Reddit about how men think women wear yoga pants for attention 🙄🙄🙄

    Post # 6
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    I notice I’m in a better mood when I feel confident, so mostly I dress for myself.  The only man I dress for is my husband. If I won’t be seeing him until the evening I don’t really put much effort in getting ready for work, instead I’ll fix myself up before he comes home 🤣

    Post # 7
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    1030 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2017 - A vineyard

    I dress for comfort most of the time. I also dress in yoga clothes or giant baggy t shirts and shorts because I am a stay at home who doesn’t go many places. Yoga clothes tend to be my errand and gym clothes and the baggy clothes are my home clothes.

    When I am dressing up though it tends to be for other people. Mostly so my husband’s superiors don’t get too terrible an impression of me because that still matters stupidly. But if I’m just heading to an appointment then I do not care an iota what people think of me. Unless they plan on dressing me and buying my clothes and jewellery they have no say in my clothing choices. 

    Post # 8
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    161 posts
    Blushing bee

    100% for me. The way I dress is not an invitation for creepy men on transit to touch me. Fuck off, please and thank you.

    Post # 9
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    2986 posts
    Sugar bee

    soexcited123 :  I think this quote from Tracee Ellis Ross sums up very well the way I feel about the subject:

    “I now know that I [grew up watching] a woman in her full power and glory, who utilized her agency. And that’s what clothing, style and fashion represented to me—a uniform for greatness. Your clothing can change your narrative and reframe circumstances, and it can be a visual marker for a larger conversation. That is why it has that meaning in my life.”

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    I dress for me, primarily, but also, mostly for my professional persona- as a nurse, I’m in scrubs with hair in a pony-tail. No muss, no fuss. As a nurse Practitioner, I’m in business casual- conservative & stylishly sensible. I have spent the last 2 and a half years, 60+ hours a week in those roles. In my personal time, I’m either in comfortable clothes (think pajamas) at home or as a typical “basic” woman in skinny-jeans, booties, and stylish top complete with a cafe mocha and a name brand purse. I packed on 30 pounds over the last 3 years (thanks to a grueling Master’s program), and I can’t quite pull off being “hot mom” like I used to. No worries. The weight well come off, probably this spring.

    Post # 11
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Why do we continue to ask questions and expect generalizations as the answer?  Just as each individual varies in their choices and reasons, so does their choice from one situation to the next.

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 1997

    I think everyone dresses, to a certain extent, for the occasion and for societal expectations. Within that framework, there is wiggle room. In other words, most people won’t wear a bikini and stilettos to the grocer or ripped jeans to the opera. After that, it becomes very hard to determine what or whom someone is dressing for. I know women who wear outfits I wouldn’t be caught dead in (usually overly sexy), but if you asked them, they would say they are dressing for themselves. Perhaps they are, but when they freely admit that their shoes are painful, but that they “look better” than more comfortable shoes, I have to wonder “look better” to whom? 

    In other words, we become socialized by what we see as “normal”. So the woman whose mother dresses for men’s attention might dress the same way and think it is for herself because that’s what she was exposed to. Or someone who grew up with parents who dressed more business-like might not feel comfortable in jeans, yet if you asked them, they would say they dressed for themselves. So we’re all influenced by what we see and learn growing up. 

    I generally dress for “me” within the context of my job, the occasion, what I grew up learning was “presentable”, etc. So, is it really for me? Hard to say. What I can say is that I do not dress overly casual or overly sexy or overly revealing. 

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

    When I go to work I dress for myself, when I’m home cooking, cleaning and doing laundry I dress for myself, when my husband and I go out I dress for him

    Post # 15
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    47150 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    soexcited123 :  People will never stop generalizing about women, unitl we stop generalizing about ourselves.

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