(Closed) Who do you and FI/DH spend the holidays with?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: how do you and SO spend holiday time?
    We host holidays and both our families are welcome : (5 votes)
    5 %
    We rotate holidays between my family & his : (28 votes)
    29 %
    We try to visit all of our family on the holiday : (37 votes)
    39 %
    Other: Please Explain : (26 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Thanksgiving I try to go up to my Mom’s place (it’s a fair distance away). Fiance doesn’t bother coming & that’s fine with both of us.

    Christmas I always spend with FI’s family. Father-In-Law literally lives in the next building over, so we go over in the morning, open gifts, laze about, have dinner & then go home. It’s nice and simple and very, very relaxing. I love it. 🙂

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I voted that we try to visit all of our family on the holiday. We live very close to the FIL’s and about 3 hours away from my parents. For Thanksgiving we will spend the actual holiday with his parents and then on Friday we will drive to my parents’ house and spend the weekend with my family. For Christmas we drive up and spend Xmas Eve and Xmas morning with my family then drive down to his parents’ for Xmas dinner.

    It kinda stinks having to travel so much, especially ON Christmas Day, but we are thankful that all of our family are at least driving distance apart.

    Post # 5
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Christmas Eve my parents and aunt are driving into town. We spend it with them and DH’s immediately family with a nice dinner, TBD at this point (i hope we go out, frankly), about 30 min away.

    Christmas Morning: I’ll make breakfast and we’ll do Christmas with just my immediate family (mom/dad/aunt)

    Christmas afternoon: We go to DH’s aunt and uncle’s house for the big extended family Christmas (about 30 min from us)

    I’m clicking other–we partially host I guess.

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    We’re hosting this year –  Christmas eve and Christmas day.  One side of his family will come Christmas eve,  one side will come Christmas day along with my parents.  I’m glad… because visiting 4 different houses on Christmas eve/day was tiring!

    Post # 7
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We usually spend each holiday with my family and then go to his house for dessert. For Christmas since there are two days we do Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas day with his.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Typically we spend Christmas with my family and Thanksgiving with his. My Fiance doesn’t have the greatest relationship with his mother/parents, so he says he prefers to be with my family at Christmas anyway. For New Years we have sometimes gone back to his hometown, and sometimes not. As long as we’ve been dating we have lived in a separate city from both families, and our parents houses are about 6 hours away from each other. So we really can’t just spot at one house then another for a single holiday. We’ve never hosted any holidays, but still have sort of temporary living situations (apartments we don’t plan on staying at for long).

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I checked other.  Basically we just decide that holidays occur when we say they occur and involve whatever traditions we say they involve.  We don’t celebrate Christmas, but we do tend to be around that time of year.  Both our families celebrate Thanksgiving and Hannukah, but we tend to be out of town on our own for those.

    When we lived closer to home, though, and could see everyone at Thanksgiving, we told my parents to move Thanksgiving to Saturday.  So we could go to my fiance’s family, my brother could go to his girlfriend’s family, and then we could reconvene on Saturday for Thanksgiving 2.  Now we have Christmakkagiving though we don’t call it that, when we go over to my parents’ for Christmas, but we make Thanksgiving food instead, and exchange Hannukah gifts.

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    we are having Christmas and Thanksgiving with ourselves.. :P…. because our families are too far away to celebrate with them.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    We planned on driving the 3 hours to his parents house to do Thanksgiving with them on the Sunday, and Monday with mine (we’re in Canada), but his dad called and said they just got a small turkey so not to bother coming. Fiance was hurt because we thought it was just going to be the two of them , but his sister, husband and nephews were with them.

    Last Christmas we spent Christmas eve and morning with my family, and drove after lunch up to his parents for Christmas dinner and a few days rest. Only to discover that their turkey was done cooking an hour early so they already ate so they wouldn’t have to eat dry turkey…

    This year we’ll be spending the week before with his family and after opening presents and breakfast driving back home to have dinner with mine.

    My family also does a big New Years Day dinner every year, and his doesn’t.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Thanksgiving: My family the day of, his the day after (next year it’ll probably be reversed)

    Christmas Eve: His parents & also his dad’s family

    Christmas Morning: His parents and sister and his mom’s family

    Christmas Evening/Late Night: My family (since I only have Aunts & Uncles/Cousins/Grandparents on my Mom’s side – they all are together).

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    We do it differently every single year. This year, we’re splitting up: I’m flying home to be with my family (thanks for the plane ticket, mom!) and he’s going on a ski trip with his parents.

    Post # 14
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    We spend Eve with one family and Day with the other.

    This year, we spent Thanksgiving Eve with his family and Thanksgiving Day with mine, and we’ll be spending Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas Day with his. Next year, we’ll switch.

    I. HATE. THIS.

    My family celebrates the actual day of in their individual nuclear units… and there’s usually a big shindig sometime around the holiday (which I never attended b’cuz my entire family’s in Korea *sad panda*). But my Future Mother-In-Law wants us to spend both Eve AND Day with her family… oh wait, just her. It’s always all about her. Even when we won’t budge on the compromise, she throws a tantrum and ruins the time we actually do spend with her. I hate her.

    I can’t wait until we host Thanksgiving for both families, and then spend Christmas BY OURSELVES!

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    His family lives across the country, and my family lives about three hours away, so we spend time with my family. He also isn’t that close with his family, and I’m very tight with mine; it’s nothing personal towards his family, but it only makes sense for us.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee

    Well, I’m not spending time with his family due to his mother. =/

     

    So, he went over to his parents for Thanksgiving without me, I spent it alone cleaning the apartment. I fully intend to plan a little better next year. My family doesn’t celebrate any holidays due to religious views. 

    For Christmas we are getting together with our college friends who don’t have family in the area. One is from Africa, and his gf’s parents hate him for being an atheist. So, we are going to include him. 🙂

    I really think it will be a lot of fun. We really don’t have a determined plan, but we will figure it out.

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