Who do you buy presents for at your own wedding?

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
1746 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

We only did gifts for the wedding party, and I got small gifts for my parents. We did not get gifts for each other or his parents. Our rationale for not getting each other gifts was that WE were each other’s gift lol. 

In your case, if you decide to do parent gifts, I would just get gifts for your direct parents unless their partners had a significant impact on your life.

ETA: We did give each other heartfelt notes to read as we were getting ready, though. That was something I really appreciated doing.

Post # 3
47445 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

For my first wedding, we gave our parents a card with our heartfelt thoughts and an IOU for a wedding picture or album(their choice).

Post # 4
578 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

I’m also curious to hear thoughts on this re: appropriate gifts for parents. As far as gifts for each other, FH probably doesn’t even know that’s a thing. He’s not the type to give me a gift with a sappy card. I don’t think we’ll do that – we’re not really big on gifts.

Post # 5
1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

We did gifts for our parents and there are three sets of them (my fiance’s parents, and then my parents are divorced and both remarried).  We decided to write them a letter and we will be putting together individual photo albums of the wedding pictures for them (of only the ones they’re in).  We also got gifts for our bridal party members, including the flower girl and ring bearer.

Post # 6
1121 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

We got our parents a gift card to a restaurant and an IOU for an album. I got him little things to make the day special, no giant surprise. He was going to get me earrings…. then we bought a car… and a house…. so yeah I’m still waiting on those earrings 😂😂

Post # 8
1958 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I have six bridesmaids, and I got each one a gift worth around $20 (MoH was $25 by circumstance).  His parents are divorced and remarried, so we are also going to get all three sets of parents an appropriate framed professional photo of us with each set of parents for gifts (they won’t get these until probably August but that’s okay they know it’s coming). 

We want to do something for each other, but we are struggling to reconcile the costs. Still up for discussion lol

Post # 9
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

We’re getting gifts for our wedding party and for my parents only. We might pick up a small gift for his parents but we’re not sure yet.

We’re thinking about doing a weekend getaway as a gift to my parents because they don’t need anything in terms of stuff. We wanted to gift them something special because they’re paying for the wedding and to thank them for all the contributions they’ve made (monetary and time) towards our life. My fiance’s parents have largely been MIA during this entire process (wedding planning and life in general) so it’s still unknown if we will get them a gift.

For my bridesmaids, the plan is to buy them some nice cardholders. I don’t want to go the personalized bag of misc. stuff route – I’d rather spend money on one thing they’ll use for a long time. I also contemplated getting them each a diptyque candle, monica vinder necklace, or something else nicer. For my fiance’s groomsmen, I’m not sure what he’s buying them but they’re big video game nerds so it’ll probably be video game related.

Post # 10
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

I’m doing gifts for bridal party, moms, grandmom. I told my fiancé he is on the hook for getting something for the dads and his grandpa. Fiancé is getting pics of me from a boudoir shoot. 

5 bridesmaids: getting a robe, fuzzy socks, color corrdinated hair bands (thanks for helping me tie the knot) then something for the wedding (necklace or a service like hair of their choosing).

1flower girl: robe and her dress for the event.

1 ring bearer: his outfit and kisses… he’s under 2 and my nephew. 

Mob/mog- robes and a hand embroidered handkerchief. 

Grandmother- hand embroidered hankie. 

Post # 11
11 posts
  • Wedding: June 2019 - Deer Park Hall, Worcester

We only gave a heartfelt card to my parents, his weren’t involved. 

I put together a little box of things for my husband to have on the day abs he bought me some gorgeous jewellery and hobby related items. 

All the items I got for the box were personalised or meaningful, not visible is an engraved Italian leather wallet with a hand stamped metal card inside. 

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