Post # 1
Do you pretty much only get gifts for the individuals at the rehearsal that had to pay out of their own pocket for something (aka the groomsmen bought suits and my FMIL paid for the flowers), or do you also buy a gift for the uncle that gets to wear what he wants and is just walking?
On that same note, do you buy a gift for the bridesmaid that you had to buy their dress for (and potentially pay for their hair/makeup even though it’s optional, but they want it anyway)? Because it’s only one or two bridemaids out of the group (of 4) and it’s understandable that they doesn’t have money…I understood that when I asked them. But does it look awful to give them something small in comparison to those that really went out of their way to be a part of the wedding?
It just kind of feels like all the gifts are getting out of control…and I feel like I need to distinguish between those that really went all out to help me and those that I had to financially support to be a part of the big day.
Post # 3
You give a gift for those that did something in the wedding – all BMs (yes, all), all GM, anyone doing a reading, ring bearer, flower girl, and parents.
Post # 4
@Glasgowbound: Does that include people who joined the wedding party to walk? Like aunts and uncles?
Post # 5
We’re only doing people who are involved in the wedding. So the bridesmaids and groomsmen, and then we’ll get a bottle of wine or something for FI’s dad and stepmom, since they really helped us out and are hosting the rehearsal dinner.
I would not include anyone who is just walking in the processional, like your uncle.
Post # 6
@lovelyduckie: I’d say no presents for aunts/uncles
Post # 7
I think all of the bridesmaids should get the same gift, as well as the groomsmen should get the same gift, regardless of whether or not you’re covering costs for them. Yes, that means you’re spending more money on them, but I think it would be tacky to get one bridemsaid/groomsmen less because you bought her dress or covered the cost of tux rental.
For my wedding, we’re doing gifts for the bridesmaids, groomsmen, and our parents. We don’t have a flower girl or ring bearer.
Post # 8
I think the BMs and GMs should all get gifts. Even if you covered their costs, you shold give everyone equal gifts. If you want to give some people something extra, I would do that at a private moment.
I would add in gifts to the parents (assuming there is not Jerry Springer drama) but that is nice to do at a separate time as well.