(Closed) Who do you invite for Bridal Showers

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think the etiquette is that you’re not supposed to invite anyone not invited to the wedding (because it looks gift-grabby).  After that, some people invite all female guests, and some just invite those closer to them.  I am still debating what to do for mine.  My family/friends are very spread out, which makes it harder.

Post # 4
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Uh, I would not invite anyone who is not invited to the wedding. I think it is considered rude. I know I would not go if I wasnt invited to the wedding. 

ETA: I see you said you would tell them not to bring gifts but they most likely still would. The point is to “shower” the bride with gifts. Your coworkers may throw a surprise one for you at work anyway.

Post # 5
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@fuentesbee:  I would invite those that you know will find it acceptable. If your friends/coworkers/family have the same cultural values then invite them regardless of wedding attendance, but otherwise, don’t.


I’m a follower of the “No Wedding – No Shower” for invitaiton but my mother has a group of friends that play cards together and they always throw a shower for the children even though none are invited to the wedding. She’s asked the ladies to simply attend the 1 shower instead of holding two and htey’re fine with it. Thats why I would say if you’re guests are 100% okay not being invited ot the wedding and invited to the shower anyways, then go for it even if its against the “traditional” rules.

Post # 6
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

2nd-ing the “no wedding invite, no shower invite” rule.  Since the point is to “shower” the bride with gifts, you’re kind of sending the message that a guest is important enough to give you a gift, but not important enough to share in your special day.

Some circles invite every lady on the wedding guestlist.  I insisted on only family and bridal party.  This gave us a guestlist of about 25 which IMO is plenty.  Bridal parties aren’t supposed to be huge; they’re an intimate gathering of women you care about.

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