(Closed) Who DO you invite to a rehearsal dinner??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1729 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think Thursday would be fine.

You need to invite both sets of parents and the bridal party and their SO’s. You can choose to invite any special guests like grandparents, godparents, etc…some people choose to invite everyone who’s traveled to attend the wedding.


Post # 4
946 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Are you having your rehearsal on Thursday night? It’s not a huge deal if you have a Rehearsal Dinner or not.  you can just informally invite those at your rehearsal to join you at a restaurant afterwards. 

Edited: just realized you are getting married in April. I read this post as if you were getting married this Friday. Sorry!

we are inviting our wedding party + their spouses and family traveling from Out of Town

Post # 5
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@phillybride61513:  +1.

We had the wedding party, parents, ushers, all the SO’s, the minister and his wife, along with any friends or relatives that had traveled into town early.

Post # 6
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We have our parents, wedding party + spouses/SO, our grandmothers are invited but we don’t know if they’ll come that late- we’re waiting to see who is coming from out of town before we make that call. We’d like for them to come, but don’t want them to feel obligated to drive all the way here, throw their luggage into a hotel room, then drive over to a dinner.

Post # 7
8576 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

im not sure how the rehearsal dinner normally goes, but we are getting it catered by the same folks doing the wedding catering, who charge $31/plate. Therefore, we are limited it to our parents, bridal party, dj & the rev.


Post # 8
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’re inviting both sets of parents, grand parents, bridal party + dates, readers and any out of town guests who will be arriving the night before. 

Post # 9
1278 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My venue charges an extra fee for a formal “rehearsal” WHich is LAME! So we are still having just the “dinner” the night before and calling it the rehearsal dinner without the rshearsal. It’s us, the pastor and her husband who are family friends, Fiance parents and step parents who are paying for the dinner, my parents, both sets of grandparents, a set of aunts and uncles who are traveling on both our sides, and our large bridal party and their SOs. So it’s about 50 people (Wedding is 150 guests).

Post # 10
1598 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Invite the bridal party (and perhaps a date for each of them), your parents and SO’s parents, and possibly grandparents or other close relatives.

A lot of people nowadays insist on inviting every layer of relatives, giving them all a “plus one” and including all of the out of town guests, but if we did that, there’d be, like, 200 people at our rehearsal dinner. Um, no thank you. lol

Just invite the people you’re closest to and those in the wedding party. The guest list will largely depend on your budget, and in your case, who is available on a Thursday.

Everyone does it a little differently, so don’t feel too constricted with your choices.








Post # 11
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

We had the bridal party/SOs, immediate family, and selective out of town guests (5 total.)

We also had a Friday wedding, and we didn’t make the Rehearsal Dinner “mandatory” (our “rehearsal” was the minister taking 5 minutes going over the lineup with the guys before the ceremony.)

Having the Rehearsal Dinner on a Thursday is great- a lot more options for venues- we booked ours within a week of. There are some good suggestions in the Baltimore board- we had ours upstairs at Brewer’s Cask.

From Emily Post- 

“The guest list at a rehearsal dinner should include the members of the wedding party and their spouses,fiancé(e)s, or live-in partners; the officiant and his or her spouse or partner; the parents, stepparents, and grandparents of the bride and groom; and any siblings of the bride and groom who are not in the wedding party. If single members of the wedding party were invited to bring a date to the wedding, then it’s kind to include the date at the rehearsal dinner. Any children of the bride and groom from a previous marriage are invited, unless they are too young.  Parents of young attendants, such as a flower girl or ring bearer, are also included.”


Post # 12
1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If the venue charges a fee for a rehearsal, I would bring a poster or flip chart to Rehearsal Dinner, and show where/when everyone comes in and sits.

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