Who do you invite to your child's bday party?

posted 2 months ago in Beehive
Post # 2
47287 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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zoraneale :  It depends on their age. Until they were in school, our kids’ birthday parties were immediate family only: parents and siblings. It is not custom in our family to invite extended family like grandparents, aunts, uncles cousins etc.

After they were in school, they had a party where they were allowed to invite the same number of guests as their age. Invitations were mailed, not handed out at school.

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

My oldest is a toddler so I’m sure this will change but right now it’s just grandparents, her uncle/aunt (so my BIL/SIL), godparents, and a handful of our friends that have kids about the same age. She has become really close with a couple of kids in particular at daycare and we’ve been on the fence about including them in the future. 

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

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zoraneale :  When he was a little bug, we invited family, our friends (with or without kids) and people we knew and liked.

Once he started school and started making his own friends, then he got to help with the guest list (and we still include family and people we know and like beacause I like to throw parties and I want to have a good time, too).

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

For my first child’s first birthday, we just invited immediate family (me and husbands parents + siblings/partners + niece). I have friends who have invited a few adult friends +/- kids as applicable (I’m invited to two of my close friend’s son’s birthdays in the coming month or so), and a couple who have gone sort of all out (like 30+ people, family + friends + people’s kids) for first birthdays. I think any of the above are acceptable and really it depends how much work you want to put in. Some people want to keep things small as possible while kids are young and fairly clueless, others want to celebrate that they survived the first year in style haha. 

I am planning to stick to the same small group this year for my son’s second birthday (we have #2 due about a month before that), but might open it up to more friends for his third. I think we would follow suit with #2, keep it family only for a couple years and then consider. We have A LOT of friends with young kids right now, so to open it up to our close friends with kids would add another 20+ people pretty quick. 

Post # 6
634 posts
Busy bee

I don’t have kids, but just attended my boyfriend’s friend’s child’s first birthday. They invited all their friends (7 couples). Only one other couple had children. I think it was just an excuse for all the adults to hang out – everyone has busy lives and it can be difficult to coordinate.

Post # 7
4028 posts
Honey bee

My son is four and we always do family only parties, which includes his cousins, aunts, and uncles. One time we went to a trampoline park, so I invited my BFF and her kids, but that was an exception. The kids who do friend parties at school have done everything from just the class to the class plus older family members plus friends. My rule of thumb is, until they are old enough to ask for a friend party or specific people to be there, I keep it to family only.

Post # 8
480 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Under three – we invited gandparents, close family and friends.

Over three – He was old enough to have friends at nursery and preschool that we would invite the children in his class (it was only 7) and other cousins and friends kids that were close to his age. 

If we are doing something small then we would invite cousins close to his age and a couple of his friends from school. 

Post # 9
208 posts
Helper bee

If they are going to school/daycare or have friends in the neighborhood I would invite the friends. If they are too young to have these types of relationships I would invite family. 

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