(Closed) Who do you know who uncovered cheating through snooping?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How do you feel about snooping?

    I snoop consistently as a precaution.

    I would snoop if I was suspicious about something.

    I would snoop, but only with permission (which isn't really snooping at all).

    I would take my SO's word for it.

    If I felt suspicious enough to snoop, I would leave the relationship.

  • Post # 61
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

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    Olivepepper:  DO WHAT?! That’s some insanity right there. I’m so sorry that happened to you. Good on you for not ending up in jail…cause I probably would have.

    Post # 62
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I snooped on DH accidentally. Back when Dear Daughter was 2, she used to like to ‘tappy-tap’ on our computer keyboard. One day DH forgot to sign out of his e-mail account and when Dear Daughter was playing around, an e-mail from one of his co-workers popped up. It mentioned a makeout session between them when he drove her home one night, and that got the ball rolling. I should have just stopped there, but it turns out he had made advances on other female co-workers and was even talking to a girl from a dating website. Most of the girls had sent him nude pictures, as well.

    Obviously I stayed with him, but we did separate back in ’10 for a year (his choice). During that time we talked it all out (more-so me letting him have it, and him just taking it–for once he didn’t try to brush it off) and I’ve gotten past it over the years… but a teeny-tiny part of me wonders if it’ll ever happen again.

    Post # 63
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

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    jillbean1217:  In the end it was the best thing to ever happen. He was a ‘musican’ (in this case, read that as unemployed) was financially manipulative, did not make me feel good about myself and was a general douche. I was however too invested to just break it off, so the discovery of that news was big enough to give me a case of the “HELL NOES” and I got out. 

    Now I am all happy and respected and loved by my partner. Not a bad outcome. 

    Post # 64
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

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    Olivepepper:  I understand why you were with him for 5-6 years since you didn’t know he and his BFF were involved. But why oh why did she stay with him AND have 2 kids with him when he had a girlfriend?!?! Wow, just wow

    Post # 65
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2016 - Whitetail Ridge

    I have snooped on an ex before. After 4 years together, he one day broke up with me out of the blue; after coming over for dinner with my parents that night, planning when we would carve pumpkins, and watching a movie together. I asked him point blank if there was someone else, and he told me no, but he also had all of my stuff that had been at his house with him in the car when he came over.

    I haven’t talked to him since the day of that break up. I texted him a few times that I still loved him, tried to talk through what happened, but he never responded. I knew he left his e-mail to automatic login on my laptop, and snooped one day, a week or so after the break up, and found pictures and e-mails with a girl from 3 months before we broke up, there were pictures of the two of them on her facebook taken before we broke up, and when I was reading some of them, he stated, the night that we broke up that he was “recently single.”

    I’m better off for it. I needed to know to get closure, and since he wasn’t offering that, I got it for myself. He refused to grow up, his parents paid for literally everything, and because his family was well off, he and his parents thought they were better than everyone and made it known that they felt this way. I really dodged a bullet. Now that I think back on it, I really can’t believe I spent so much time with him, but I guess I didn’t know how much better I could do.

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    Post # 66
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

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    KoiKove: He was pretty freaking charismatic. I believe she had been in love with him since her early teens. 

    I really should not have stayed with him longer than a year, but I did. 

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