Who do you love more your husband or kids

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: Who do you love more
    Husband : (54 votes)
    32 %
    Kids : (32 votes)
    19 %
    Equally but differently : (83 votes)
    49 %
  • Post # 3
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    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We don’t have nearly as much history as you do, but I truly think its a different kind of love. In a way, the love for my son is unconditional. I created him, I carried him, and it is my responsibility to see he grows up happy and healthy. Fiance on the other hand isn’t nearly as unconditional. We have to work on our love (which isn’t a bad thing) and work at it. I can’t say I wouldn’t always love him, but of course there are those certain exceptions (abuse, etc) where I could potentially fall OUT of love with him. Know what I mean? Then again, he isn’t my son’s father so we don’t have that same bond either.

    Post # 4
    Member
    54 posts
    Worker bee

    I think it is a truly beautiful sentiment. I have always believed the love for one’s spouse should take precedence over love for one’s children. That love precedes the children and will last long after the children have moved out. Your spouse is the one you will grow old with, whereas children are meant to grow up and out of the home and hopefully find a great love of their own.

    I also think it is very emotionally healthy for children to know that their parents are deeply in love with one another and put each other first. I only wish my parents had as great a love as that so that I could be certain of their happiness as they continue to grow old together…unfortunately that is not the case.

    Post # 5
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    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t think it’s appropriate to ask  or say “who do you love more” I obviously love Fiance and Dirty Delete both VERY much, but I love them both in different ways!

    Post # 6
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    722 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Mara09:  I don’t think love for your spouse should take precedence OVER your children. your children are apart of you, they came from you and are here because of you. and how would a child feel if they heard “i love your daddy/mommy more than i love you”….I would never tell my daughter that!

    our daughter is here because Fiance and I love each other, therefore she was made out of love. i love her, i love him but i definitely don’t love one more than the other, i love them in different ways

    ETA: and your love for your children continues even after they move out, just because they move out and you say with SO after they leave, doesn’t mean your love for your children stop but continues with your SO. I’ll love our children and Fiance until the day i die. them moving out won’t make me love them less or stop loving them

    Post # 7
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    758 posts
    Busy bee

    F Scott Fitzgerald said there are all kinds of love but never the same love twice. I believe they are completely different but equally the same 

    Post # 8
    Member
    955 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    What?  No option for the dog?

     

     

    Post # 9
    Member
    5400 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Weird question. I think it’s totally different and not really comparable. 

    Post # 10
    Hostess
    8576 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think this would be better worded as in, “if you had to choose between your kids & your husband”, instead of who you love more.

    It’s clear that you love them in differant ways, equally.

    Post # 11
    Member
    923 posts
    Busy bee

     I love my SO deeply, but there is no person in the world I could ever imagine loving as much a I love my daughter. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    592 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t have kids yet, but I don’t think I could love my Fiance more than someone I give birth to and I kinda expect him to love our child just as much. Your child is always your child, but as I have seen from reading posts on this board about divorced parents causing issues at weddings your spouse doesn’t always remain your spouse. 

    Post # 14
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    1762 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    i voted I love them both equally different but of course my kids are my #1 priority and we both feel the same way about our kids.

    Post # 15
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    4656 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    One of the reasons FH and I have decided never to have kids is because we’ve seen too many couples where the spouse is competing for their husband/wife’s love and time and attention with the kids… AND LOSING. What a nightmare!

    Post # 16
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    2778 posts
    Sugar bee

    @jessivivi:  I personally don’t believe that anyone should love their spouse more or in any way put their spouse above their children. I think your kids should always be your number one love and priority. 

     

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