(Closed) Who do you (not) want in the delivery room with you?

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
295 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Honestly, I’d probably want to be alone. 

Not even have the husband in there. haha

Post # 4
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I just want my husband in there. I don’t even want anyone else there while I’m laboring, or anyone in the waiting room while I’m delivering.  Leave me alone peoples!!!

Post # 5
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t want anyone in there except my husband and the doctors/nurses. And even my husband needs to stay away from the action down below, haha.

Post # 6
2449 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Not pregnant, but…

I seriously want no one in there except Darling Husband. If I HAD to pick one more person, I guess I’d let my mom in there. No way my dad/FIL or Mother-In-Law are getting in.

Post # 7
7647 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@PoppyH:  I want my husband there, and that is it. I initially wanted my mom, but now that my pregnancy has progressed and I see her [very strong] point of view on medical intervention, I don’t want to have my choices judged for whatever decisions I make.

I also give a big HELL no to my Mother-In-Law being anywhere near me while I am in labor or delivering. She will be called when I’m in labor or when the baby is born and she can wait out in the waiting room with whoever else until we are ready to let her come in. And, in a perfect world where I would get my way, she honestly wouldn’t be called until I was home and had time to ourselves.

Post # 8
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I was okay with my husband and my sister. I did not want my mother or my Mother-In-Law during heavy labor or delivery. Ended up having a C-section so it was only the husband anyway. 

Post # 9
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had a lot of people in there, but NO PARENTS!!!  I do not, under any circumstances, need my step-dad, or Father-In-Law anywhere near my exposed vagazzle.  Ever.


That said, I had the midwife and the nurse, two doulas, my husband, a very close girl friend, and a photographer (who is also a good friend and who happens to be an RN as well)


I felt so supported, loved, and energized by my amazing support team.  I had help moving into and out of the labor tub, one doula did counter pressure while the other pressed a cool rag to my forhead, and my Darling Husband held my hand, and my friend recited some of my positive birth affirmations.  I was surrounded by so much positivity, and it really helped me have a wonderful natural birth experience.

ETA- I am not shy, and I’m not a “clutch my pearls” kind of person either, so I completely get that my birth experience would be a nightmare for some people… but it is what worked for me and I loved it.

Post # 10
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would also add that you should enlist the help of your doctor/L&D nurse in making these wishes known. I never told my Mother-In-Law either way, but I told my L&D nurse that I didn’t want her in there and she was very supportive. 

Post # 11
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

my mother (a nurse) will be there, and my Fiance will be there. that’s all. everyone else can wait in the hallway or in the waiting room. of course, doctors and nurses will be there too. but aside from them? nobody else is needed. i’d like to have as few people exposed to that part of me as possible.

Post # 12
1999 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I’m not even pregnant (yet! lol) but my SO and I both agree it should be my Mum. I will need a calming influence and he’ll be way too nervous for that! 

Post # 13
1120 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@PoppyH:  I would 100% want only my husband with me in the delivery room (and all necessary medical staff, obviously). Only our immediate families (parents and siblings) are situated where we live, and we’re all pretty close so it’d be fine if they all wanted to come in afterwards.

Post # 14
8664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Not pregnant (yet), but I definitely want just Darling Husband and maybe my mom. I would also love for Darling Husband and I to have some time to bond with baby before everyone comes charging in. I’m sure that will cause a lot of grief with Mother-In-Law and I’m already not looking forward to it, lol. She made a comment when we were dress shopping about how I don’t need to be shy, because some day she’ll be holding up a leg while I push. Ummm NO!

Post # 15
5242 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m not even preganant but I have already thought of this and the only people I want in there are my husband and my best friend cause she keeps me sane. I dont want my mom in there cause she gives me anxiety and my Mother-In-Law..hell no!

Post # 16
7437 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I just want my husband there. My mom would make me way too nervous, she’s an anxious person.

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