Who do you take with you to find the dress???

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 4
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would get so overwhelmed. Usually SO helps me clothes shop but unfortunately that’s not an option here! 🙁 

I’m planning on asking my neighbour/good friend since she’s all artsy and upbeat and it’d probably be way more fun. 

You can always shop around different places and take different people each time. 

I personally have the hardest time shopping alone, so I’d ask someone to come with, at least for the “trying absolutely everything on both serious and ridiculous” portion of it. Take people who will make you feel good and who are good at finding things. Also, then you can focus on changing into everything and thinking about what you like about each one. 

Post # 5
47 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

@inspiration86:  take one or 2 really good friends/family members that will give you honet opinions and stay excited for you. Think of your go to person for getting ready to go out. Too many people and it can get overwhelming. 


Also, bring pictures from magazines, or on your phone of dress styles you like. Know your budget (don’t forget to ask how much general “fit” and hem and bustle alterations will cost). If you have any designers and style numbers in mind that will help too. The rest is not necessary but certainly helpful…Bring heels in the general size you think you’ll wear so you can get a good idea, a hair clip, tights/leggings/stokings/spanx any of which that will help the dress slide on easier AND will give you a better idea of what your body will look like on the day of. Also, wear full underwear, the girl helping you get the dress on will need to shove her hands up the dress to pull down several of the liners to make it sit properly.  A strapless bra would help too.



Post # 6
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I brought my mom, my Mother-In-Law, my grandmother and one friend. I loved the group!

Post # 7
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It took some planning with being so far from everyone but I took my mom, Future Mother-In-Law, Future Sister-In-Law, and then one of SO’s aunts came. My Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man couldn’t be there but we went and I showed them when I got back home. I wanted the 2 other aunts to come but they were busy. 

We laughed a lot and all fell in love with one dress. I had a good time but wished my girls could have been there too. 

They all helped pick dresses with me but I got the last say on what I wanted. 

Post # 8
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

My Fiance. Possibly my mother and sister if they would like to come, but definitely my Fiance.

Post # 9
1227 posts
Bumble bee

@inspiration86:  I took my mother and my Maid/Matron of Honor. Both are very much the type to keep their opinions to themselves.  If there is one thing I appreciated about that, it’s that I bought the dress I wanted.

I would ask them questions, and they would answer.  We narrowed it down to 4, and neither of them would tell me their favourite.  Then I picked one, and they both told me it was the one they liked best.


I would not change ANYTHING about that.  I was not pressured into buying a dress I didn’t like, or not buying a dress I didn’t like as much as another. I kinda regreted that I didn’t take my Future Sister-In-Law and Future Mother-In-Law, but honestly, less is more when it comes to dress buying, and pick carefully. I’m sorry, if your Maid/Matron of Honor or mother or whomever is very opinionated and talks more than listens, leave them at home.  At the end of the day, you’re the one who has to wear it, and you’re the one hwho has to feel GORGEOUS in it.

Post # 10
1285 posts
Bumble bee

I just took my Maid/Matron of Honor the first 2 times. the last trip, i called ahead to see if they had the dress i was looking for, they did. I went alone and tried it on and purchased it.  Its what i really wanted. I didn’t have anyone there to tell me no. lol

Post # 11
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Historic Chapel

@inspiration86:  I will only be taking my mom. my dad, and my bff if she’s available to come. I think those are enough opinions,  I feel like more people would make it to crowded and the pinions would range more widely. Eventhough at the end the only final opinion that matters on the dress is mine.

Post # 12
1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’ll probably go dress shopping a few times and invite my mom, my sister, my Future Sister-In-Law, and all of my close friends.  I don’t expect all of them to come on every trip, but when I’m ready to “say yes to the dress” I definitely want my mom and sister there, and I know they want to be there, too.  I’d love to have my Future Sister-In-Law and at least one or two close friends on that day, also.  I’m extremely indecisive, so the more opinions and debating the better.  I tend to know what I really want in that split second between asking someone their opinion and getting their answer.  In that moment, I realize what I want their answer to be.


Post # 13
12246 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I brought my mother and two sisters! They all said I looked amazing in everything.

They were the perfect dress selection team!

Post # 14
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

The first time – My Mom, Sister(MOH) and Bridesmaid or Best Man1

the second time – My Godmother and Bridesmaid or Best Man2

Post # 15
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

The first time I went was on a whim and I tried on my dress with my mom.  It was more to make her feel good (long story).  The only fun part was being in the dress. My mom was a dramatic diva insisting that all the focus was on her, and she was all high on painkillers at the time (since then she’s been in treatment and has been clean for two months, he’s hoping it continues).  I just kept thinking that I was doing this for her.  The lady at the bridal salon practically had to talk me into trying on the dress.

When I returned to LA and went to actually buy my dress, I went by myself.  It was far more relaxing and fun.

Post # 16
9123 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i took my mother.
the day i went bridesmaid dress shopping, my mom and 3 BMs came. we looked at dresses for me too.

when i went to the final place, where i ultimately found my dress, i was with my mom only. my Maid/Matron of Honor met me there the next day to look at it with me since i was deciding between 2, then i put the money down.


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