(Closed) Who do you tip?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I read something in the wedding magazine

waiters-tip 10-20%

the catering head already earns a commission

for me the tax and gratiuity is already included

photographer–no need its his own business

florist–no need it’s their own business

videographer-no need it’s their own business

DJ-tip 10-20% (20% in NYC)

hair and makeup-tip 10-20%

 

clergy-I am making a donation of $100-150

(I paid $1175 for organist church and choir but it is suggested to give  a donation to the priest)

 

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I read something in the wedding magazine

waiters-tip 10-20%

the catering head already earns a commission

for me the tax and gratiuity is already included

photographer–no need its his own business

florist–no need it’s their own business

videographer-no need it’s their own business

DJ-tip 10-20% (20% in NYC)

hair and makeup-tip 10-20%

 

clergy-I am making a donation of $100-150

(I paid $1175 for organist church and choir but it is suggested to give  a donation to the priest)

 

I am giving a bottle of wine each to my fiend who will do my hair free, our singer who is singing en gratis and our violinist who is playing for free just as a sign of thanks

 

 

Post # 5
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Newbee

I simply asked all of my vendors what was protocol before I signed any contracts.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

Ugh, this is a very confusing matter — and possible future post topic?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

This is my ‘rule of thumb’. Only tip those who work for a company, and have not already had gratiuity added into the cost. For me, this is only our DJ and hair stylist.

P.S. – The catering ‘20% service charge’ not being considered gratuity is total B.S. I consider this to be the tip, because they couldn’t explain to me what additional service they were charging me for. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It’s my understanding that any vendor that owns their own business (besides hair/make-up people) do NOT get a tip. For example, our cake baker, florist and DOC own their own business, so they don’t get a tip. The only people we plan on tipping currently are our hair/make-up people and officiant. 

I’m really curious what everyone has to say about the "service charge" as well. When our DOC was reviewing our venue contract, she told us that the 20 percent service charge was not a tip, and we should consider providing extra gratuity. Personally, we both feel that if we’re being charged 20 percent for "service," it’s the tip! Thoughts? (Sorry, don’t mean to take over the thread, just really curious!).

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

As for the included gratuity, what I have heard is that those are considered tip/service charge. However, if someone goes up and beyond what has been prescribed as his/her responsibility for the sake of the event, then it’s a courtesy to give them tip (meaning tip beyond wuz already included in the contract). See here.

since I’m strapped for cash, I personally won’t give any tips to any1 whose contract already includes service charge or to any1 who’s acting as his/her own business owner, UNLESS I’m moved by a performance that greatly exceeds my expectation.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee

My venue included an 18% service charge so I did not tip the staff.  I did tip the banquet captain $50 and gave the coordinator a $50 gift card.  Others I tipped that I felt necessary were the DJ and photographer.  Our officiant was my DH’s brother so he got a gift as part of the wedding party.  We also tipped hair and makeup.

RE: Service charge – it depends on the venue if they distribute the service charge to the staff.  Most do not.  The servers make an hourly wage only.  The service charge goes toward the cost of labor and staffing (chefs, cleaning staff, etc).  It is completely up to you if you’d like to tip additional but from experience most service staff does not expect a tip – its is a nice surprise if they get one.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I have also always heard that you don’t tip people if they own their business.  So we tipped the venue manager and wait staff and the florist.  Our only other vendors were cake and hair/makeup, and they were the owners of their businesses.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

The rule I’ve always heard, if they own their own business, you don’t  get a tip. I’m not tipping my florist, DJ, Photographer, Officiant or venue/caterer. They are charging me a 20% service fee + an additional waitstaff fee since I don’t meet the 125 minimum + tax on top of that. My feeling is tip & service fee are the same. I’m guessing the service charge came to be when they felt they weren’t getting tipped appropriately.

I will tip hair/makeup and drivers.

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