(Closed) Who do you want in the room when you deliver?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Who do you want in the room when you deliver?
    spouse / SO : (190 votes)
    41 %
    mom : (65 votes)
    14 %
    mother in law : (10 votes)
    2 %
    sister : (18 votes)
    4 %
    friend : (10 votes)
    2 %
    doctor / nurses : (114 votes)
    25 %
    midwife : (34 votes)
    7 %
    doula : (23 votes)
    5 %
    other : (1 votes)
    0 %
  • Post # 3
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    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Before we were going natural I wanted my husband and the necessary personnel. Now that we’re going to be in such a relaxed environment I’m opening my mind to parents, but I’m sure that won’t last for long, especially with my Mother-In-Law and my mother’s mouth 🙂

    Post # 4
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    1003 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    If I were to have a baby I would want Fiance and Future Mother-In-Law in the delivery room. Future Mother-In-Law is a nurse and also a stern woman who can speak for me when I am in pain. And make sure people aren’t doing stupid things medically. 

    Post # 5
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    1269 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Husband, mom, sister, Mother-In-Law, and doctors/nurses.  No other men unless my dad feels it’s really important but I doubt that.

    Post # 6
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    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I definitely just want me, husband, Dr., and nurse.  I’m set on having as few people in there as possible!  The more people, the more stressed I will be.  My mother keeps telling me how she really wants to be there, and I keep findind nice ways to say “absolutely not.”

    Post # 8
    Member
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I want to do this by myself with just the Dr’s and nurses.  I know that sounds weird but I think that would make me the most comfortable.

    Post # 9
    Member
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    my husband and the doctor/nurse team.  no one else needs to witness the birthing process.

    Post # 10
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Depends. Definitely my husband, and my sister in law (who’s like a sister to me), and the medical staff (dr, nurse, etc). My mother lives across the country, and I don’t know if she’d come, and my Mother-In-Law lives close, and if either of them wanted to be there, I don’t think I’d say no. My stepmother wants me to tell her the second I get pregnant, so she start looking at plane tickets, but she really really stresses me out, and I don’t want her in there.

    But I’m not pregnant yet, so I don’t really know what I’ll want when it’s time (besides Darling Husband, SIL and medical staff). 

    Post # 11
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    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    When it happens my hubby will be feeling the same amount of pain as I will be when I squeeze his hand! I’m way too uncomfortable to have anyone else in there. Will be weird enough having people staring down there!

    Post # 12
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    2161 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I worked as a L&D nurse and saw firsthand how much pressure it was on a mom, who had an entire family in the waiting room for hours and hours.  

    I just wanted my S/O and the medical staff.  We didn’t even let people know we were there until absolutely necessary and called them when we were ready for visitors.  (It wasn’t until the next day.)

    I’m glad it was a private moment.  I am no longer with my son’s father, but am so relieved my crazy ex-MIL was nowhere near me.  (She kept threatening to come anyway, because I just *may* change my mind.)

    Post # 13
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    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    @ms_nickie: Lately I’ve been thinking this is what I’d like to do too.  But in the end I wonder if we’ll regret not having my husband there.  It’s a tough decision!

    Post # 14
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    108 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    My Future Mother-In-Law told me she wants to come to all my sonograms and be in the room when I deliver.  We aren’t super close so I found this a little odd.

    I just want my husband and medical personal.  I think too many people up in my “business” is weird and takes away from the mother and fathers special moment together.

     

    Post # 15
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    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    @ms_nickie:My husband tends to find the wrong things to say at the wrong times. I know for a fact I will kick him out of the room and it’s going to take a lot of convincing to let him back in haha! 

    Post # 16
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    1124 posts
    Bumble bee

    Doctor and husband. Maybe not even the husband.

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