(Closed) Who do you want in the room when you deliver?

posted 11 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Who do you want in the room when you deliver?

    spouse / SO

    mom

    mother in law

    sister

    friend

    doctor / nurses

    midwife

    doula

    other

  • Post # 32
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    i think i’m the only one…who has no idea! this will be my first child and we are leaning towards having a natural childbirth (although i have to admit i’m still pretty terrified by the thought of the pain…ouch). my husband is the kind of person who doesn’t do super well with stress and i know he will shut down a bit when he sees me in pain. but at the same time, i obviously want him there! i want my mom there, but she is coming from out of town so i don’t know that we will get the timing perfect for her to be there on delivery day. i’m thinking about having a doula as well, so if i do she would be there too, along with our midwife.

    Post # 33
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    When we had our son my mom and BF were in the room, but then I had to have a c-section so it was just my BF in the room for that.  It is up to you who and what you feel comfortable with, personally I was a little uncomfortable with my mom “seeing all my goods” at first but that quickly passed, but those are the only 2 I was comfortable with.

    Post # 34
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Well we’re not even TTC yet, but I can tell you that it will (ideally) be Fiance and the Doc/Nurses. Any more than that and I’d be freaked out. Everyone else can see my baby after it’s all cleaned off and whatnot. And no one else needs to see my vajayjay. Fiance and Doctor’s are the only one’s who have seen it recently anyways. (I realize my parents did, like 20+ years ago, lol).

    Post # 35
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    DH and my mom and that is it!!!!!!!!! I do not want my in laws or other family there. I am a little shy…

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Well the doctors/nurses/medical staff is a given…who else is going to deliver the baby? 🙂 But I only want my DH in there. Don’t have a relationship with my Mother so that was never an issue and my Future Mother-In-Law is up my a$$ way too far that I definetly don’t want her and her control issues around. Also, it may upset some but I also do not want everyone at the hosptial before and after. I’ve seen so many family members just randomly show up with out even asking and it is just too much stress.

    Post # 37
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    We JUST had this conversation.

    At our hospital tour they said “You can have up to 3 ppl in the delivery room” and DH turns to me and said “Oh we can have our moms!”

    I said “HELL No!” I want him there and my mom (mostly because I think he might pass out, he looked sick in the CLASSES about delievery) but I don’t need my Mother-In-Law in the room with my lady-bits all exposed.

    I told him “It’s not that I don’t want your mom there, but if there’s a chance I might poop, I don’t want anyone that doesn’t have to be in the room.”

    Post # 38
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Doctor, nurses, spouse.  No one else. 

    That could change though, I could see having a supportive friend.  But I think just DH.

    Post # 39
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    2689 posts
    Sugar bee

    This being my first baby, my SO and my mom. When #2 come along, just my SO. I’ll know the ropes and will be able to do it without my mom for support.

    Post # 40
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I only had my husband in the room with me for a large part of labor.  My midwife would check in on use periodically (more so the closer I got to the actual pushing), as would nurses.  When I started pushing, only my husband, midwife, and one nurse was with me.  It was very calm and relaxed and I really enjoyed the whole process…. until after 4 hours of pushing, they decided that I needed a c-section because my daughter’s head just wasn’t coming down.  But even so, the transition from natural birth to surgery wasn’t bad, and I had a great c-section experience. 

    Post # 41
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    Bumble bee

    I’m neither pregnant nor TTC yet but if and when the time comes, only my husband and the medical personnel. And my husband stays by my side. No need going poking around in the nether regions of my anatomy seeing me all stretched out. No mothers, no sisters, no MIL’s, no friends!

    Post # 42
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I am not TTC either but I already know the answer to this question. I would have my husband and my mom. I wouldn’t want to rob my husband of this amazing experience and he is my best friend afterall. And I am very close to my mom and wouldn’t dream of not having her there!! Of course I would have the nurses/doctors there to help deliver the baby 🙂

    Post # 43
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Husband and mom.  Although I don’t really want them down there, just staying up near me.  It’s odd because I’m in medicine, and I’ve seen it all, but I sort of want them to experience my side with me (the pushing and the waiting) and not the other side.  I might change my mind though, and I imagine my husband will at least take a peek to see the progress.  But yeah.

    If my mom’s there, then I imagine my dad would be in the vicinity, and possibly hanging out in the room beforehand while I’m laboring.  But during the pushing part, just husband and mom (one to hold each leg).

    Post # 44
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    It’ll only be the two of us who created our wonderful future child. 😀

    Post # 45
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Just DH and the medical staff.

    Post # 46
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I plan to have DH and my mom in the room (plus the doctors/nurses).  My Mother-In-Law is also welcome to be there if she wants to.

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