(Closed) Who do you want in the room when you deliver?

posted 11 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Who do you want in the room when you deliver?

    spouse / SO

    mom

    mother in law

    sister

    friend

    doctor / nurses

    midwife

    doula

    other

  • Post # 47
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    No way is anyone coming in our (husband and my) room who is not a doctor or nurse. Everyone else will find out that we’re at the hospital after Wombat is born. No exceptions!

    Post # 48
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I want my mom for sure. I am on the fence about my husband. A. I think it might freak him out, and B. He has a gift for saying exactly the wrong thing sometimes and I can see him saying something stupid when I’m already pretty stressed out.

    Post # 49
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    377 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Just my husband and nobody else.  Nobody needs to see me until I’m all covered and smiling and the baby is all cleaned up and looking cute! 

    Post # 50
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    693 posts
    Busy bee

    I really just want me and my husband… and maybe my mom. for sure not my Mother-In-Law LOL so wrong but i think its so weird to have alot of people in there!

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I only want my husband in there.

    Post # 52
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    My husband and whatever medical/midwife staff needs to be there. Although my mom makes me batshit, I might want her there since she used to work as a NICU nurse and I feel like she’d know what’s going on more than I do… but I’d only feel comfortable with that if it were a hospital environment.

    Post # 53
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    When I had DS it was me, FH and doctors/ midwives. I would have liked to have my mum there but I had a very quick labour so she didn’t get there in time. FH was a god send, he was amazing. I could not imagine doing it without him. Besides, there was no way in the world he wouldn’t be there helping me during the birth of his son- even if I wanted that he would never agree to that. It was also good for him to see what I (as a female) am capable of- he has alot more respect for women with children now haha.

    On a side note, FH actually vomited when he saw the birthing dvd when we had antenatal classes so I was extremely worried about him being in the room! He also passes out at the sight of blood (not good when your having a natural delivery!). But, he was amazing when it came to crunch time. He was a model support person, I could not fault him at all and I didn’t have to tell him to do anything- he was more helpful than any midwife could ever be. With bub #2 I know I will be able to reply on him no questions asked. So my advice ladies is to put faith in your baby daddy! They will go above and beyond any expectation you have.

    Post # 54
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    Busy bee

    SO and *hopefully* a Doula (who just happens to be one of my awesome-uber-cool friends)  >.<

    Post # 55
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    2631 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    DH, my sister, our Parents…and a friend of mine that’s more like a sister would be welcome if they wanted.

    Post # 56
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2007

    @Miss Pinup: You are so right about trusting that your baby daddies (for lack of better words)! My husband gets freaked out by that stuff too and he HATES blood!! But he was an amazing coach when I had my son!! None of it bothered him! He watched almost the whole birth and he even peeked under the sheet in a stainless steel bowel at the placenta! LOL!

    They have so much adrenaline running through their body, that stuff won’t even phase your man! The whole men passing out in the delivery room thing is a Hollywood exaggeration, I think.  Because I’ve never actually heard of it happening. And don’t worry about them saying the wrong thing, they will surprise you. Trust me.

    I’m not trying to bash anyone but I can’t understand for the life of me why some of you girls wouldn’t want your husbands in the delivery room.  To have them miss out on the most beautiful day of their life seems so strange to me.  But hey, to each their own I guess. 

    Post # 57
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2007

    I just realized I said stainless steel bowel, not stainless steel bowl!! LMAO!!! That was an amusing spelling error!! 

    Post # 58
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    i deff want it to be jus me the hubby and the doctors and nurses .. my step mom is BOUND AND DETERMEND to be in the room .. she keeps saying how shes gonna be holding my leg up … im sorry but i dont want my family all up in my vag .. i dont know how to tell her that i dont want alot of people in the room .. because she seems so excited … she also doesnt have and daughters she only had one son which is now my step brother .. but she really really wants to be in the room … but im not comfortable with it .. how do i come about this …..???

    Post # 59
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    As for people I know – ONLY my DH and my mom.  I would NEED my mom there.  They are the only people I want to see me like that.  (Although I have a feeling my dear husband is going to be a above-the-shoulders only kind of delivery room dad… by choice.)

    As for medical personnel – I really don’t care.  I’d like to have a doula.  I will likely deliver at a teaching hospital and I just don’t really care who is there in terms of midwives/students/etc.

    Post # 60
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    Worker bee

    No one could pay me to have my FH in the room.

    Post # 61
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I already know who’ll be in the room.

    Doctor, Nurses, probably pediatrician, and an anesthesiologist.

    I’m having a c-section (due to two previous ones) so whenever we DO get pregnant, it’s a no-brainer as to who will be there.  Only one person can go to the OR, so that’ll be my Fiance (who will be my hubby by that time).   

    @bobbeylynn: be up-front and honest.  tell her you aren’t comfortable with her seeing you like that and you only want your husband in there to share such an important part of your new life together.  

    You could also make a joke of it, saying she wasn’t there for the making, so you don’t want her there for the birthing… or something like that.  You could probably also get away with a lie and say only one person can be in there with you and you want that to be your husband.  Although, depending on the hospital, it could actually be the truth!

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