Post # 1
I was just wondering how this works, because now that my wedding is a week away, I have been doing a lot of micromanaging/last minute detail checking.
I have about 9 picture frames to be displayed for the menu/seating board table, and 3 picture frames/a card box/a basket/a box of Jenga/sharpies and a computer monitor for photo slides for the guestbook table.
I assumed that this is a normal amount of decoration people usually do for their two “display” tables, but when I gave my venue this set up in detail (photoshopped it all and sent it to them so they won’t be confused), they said “you will need a guest to set this up for you because it is a lot more than we usually do”.
Plus, they want one of our guests to be in charge of playing our iPod for the ceremony also (after saying that one of their staff members would do it for us the first time we asked).
So for everyone else, did someone else other than your venue staff set up the decorations? Do I need to ask my MOH (I don’t have any bridal party other than my maid of honor aka my younger sister) to set everything up while FI and I are getting our first look pictures done?
Post # 3
We had our coordinator work with the florist/caterer to set everything up, only because we were all wayyy to busy on the day of and our setup required like 30 people to put it together. If it’s not too labor intensive, I’m sure asking your mom or MOH to help out would be totally fine.
Post # 4
@Redholix: My venue is charging me for things like setting up the escort table and putting out the card box and what not. Although the cost is minimal and my DOC will coordinate most of it with the florist. The table setup (linens and such) is included in my catering contract but the decor is not. I think the only thing they’re going to say we are responsible for setting up will be the photobooth since I’ve DIY’d it. I will probably get a friend or usher to do it while we are all getting ready and just make sure we have some small thank you token for helping us.
Post # 5
I’m having my bridal party and parents doing setup while we’re doing first look pictures. If you’re doing pictures before the ceremony, then that’s a great time. Everyone in my group is going to have specific tasks, so nobody is burdened with very much.
I don’t know if you could round up anyone else to help – a couple friends, your parents, other relatives – but giving a few different people short, specific lists of things they’re responsible for can get the work done in a hurry. By the time my bridal party is done setting up, we’ll be ready for our pre-ceremony group pictures, and they can join right in.
Post # 6
I have a coordinatot that came with my venue and they have a team of people to change ceremony space into reception during dinner. I am also having my day of coordinator/month of planner help.
Post # 7
My DH and I went during the morning on the day before our wedding and set everything up (escort cards, card table, favours, centerpieces, etc)., because there wasn’t an event in the room that night and we were able to. If we hadn’t been able to do that, I would have asked some of my cousins if they could do it (they had offered to help if we needed it).
Post # 8
First Wedding (circa 1980) the Morning of My Wedding Day I was at the Hair Dressers with my Mom & FMIL… while My Dad, FFIL, Groom & Groomsmen set-up and decorated the Hall.
At the end of the day / night, my Parents & Inlaws took down all the decorations etc
This time round…
Mr TTR & I eloped, but we had a bit of a Celebration Party for Family & Friends when we got home…
Mr TTR & his Buddies set-up and decorated the Hall…
At the end of the night, our Friends chipped in to give us a hand take down the decor and pack-up.
Most Couples I believe do things as we did… or else they hire a Wedding Planner or Day Of Coordinator
There have also been posts on WBee in the past where Bees have met here on-line and agreed to be each other’s Coordinators… that is always cool when it happens / works out.
Hope this helps,
Post # 9
Our planner has a team that will be setting up and taking down all of our decorations. If it wasn’t for her, I would have taken pictures of my ideas and asked my party to help set up the decorations before getting ready. You should definitely ask that your venue honor their promise about playing your ceremony music though. Good luck and congratulations!
Post # 10
@Redholix: I literally did all of my own decorating and set up the day before the wedding. I needed everything just so and was too much of a control freak to let anyone else do it.
Post # 11
If you have an adolescent/young adult female cousin who’s not a BM or if you know and trust any of the GMs SOs I’m they may be happy to help. My SO’s sister got married the first year we we were together and I felt so special when she asked me to set up these kinds of things at the venue. It also gave me something to do before the ceremony when my SO was getting ready with the other groomsmen since I came pretty early with his family.
Post # 12
We hired a DOC for that. our ceremony is at 2:30 and we don’t have access to our reception space until 2:30, so obviously that wouldn’t work. I don’t know what is standard/normal but our florist is placing flowers and our venue sets up tables/chairs and place settings and linens if you use the provided ones (we aren’t). They said they’ll light candles, but that’s it.
Post # 13
We did our own set up and take down. Mind you, we were lucky and the venue already had the room set up the night before and everyone was pretty much out of there by 9:30 pm on the night of the wedding.