To be honest…
We don’t keep score… nor do we have a drawn up list that we’ve put a lot of effort in to divide down the middle.
My first marriage, there were TONS of arguments about Chores & Housekeeping
BOTH of us were extremly unhappy…
Instead of playing to each of our Strengths & Weaknesses that two people naturally bring to a relationship, we were piling the expectations of the other on one another.
Recipe for Disaster.
This time round…
I married Mr Wonderful.
He cooks, he cleans, he takes out the garbage, maintains the cars, and cuts the grass.
I do a bit of odds and ends… Recycling – ALL the Laundry – Baking – Putzing around in the Kitchen etc.
It may not sound like it… but it even outs. My style is more “spontaneous” than regimented. So I am more likely go go on a spree (ie Spring Cleaning from top to bottom) than be the girl you want to rely on too heavily for the weekly routine
Just is who I am… I get highly bored by routine.
Lol, in all honestly, my primary job around the house seems to be research, planning & organization of what we will do next (a hold over from my career) … be that at home, or where we will travel to (we are semi-retired)
So my planning might just as well be meal planning, grocery / shopping list, or pantry organization, or keeping track of the various maintenance schedules & contracts (Window Cleaning – Lawn Service – Snow Removal – Chimney Cleaning etc)
And when we renovate, I’m the one that does all that planning, get the Quotes, Interview the Contractors, keep an eye on the process etc.
(Lol, cannot tell you how funny it is to have a Contractor come, meet us both and be clearly talking to Mr TTR… and he’ll say “You need to work it out with her… she’s the one who knows all this stuff”)
He says he is happy with this arrangement because he was single for so many years before he met me and so he’s used to doing for himself… and according to him, I bring a ton of other good qualities to our relationship… like I truly deeply CARE about him, and LOVE him 100% no matter what !!
Something he told me he’s never felt in a relationship before in his 60+ years. So that says something right there. (He’s Mr Nice-Guy too many women have taken him for granted, I guess)
And something that I truly believe ONLY Encores really get… it is so wonderful to find someone who loves your UNCONDITIONALLY… that is the ultimate…. the thing that we are all searching for in life.
And I feel the same way… he GETS ME like no other.
Anyhow… we NEVER argue, fight or barely ever even disagree. We spend almost 24/7×365 together and we never tire of each other. We are each other’s best friend. And truly enjoy each other’s company… it is nice to have someone who you can have an intelligent conversation with on ANY topic !!
He’s an absolute doll… I am one lucky girl (and I know & appreciate it).
Lol, think I’ll keep him awhile longer *HUGE Grin*