Post # 1
So I’ve seen a few short engagement threads pop up.. I promise this is different, as I’m not asking opinions on if anyone thinks my timeline is too short. Just curious as to what other bees also had a short engagement, like less than a year. Fiance and I have moved our date up almost an entire year to June 2018, we’ve been engaged since Septmember 2017… so technically we would be engaged for 9 months before getting married. We kind of took the first two months to enjoy and just talk about wedding ideas but now have been nailing down really major things just within the past month. My mother is a wedding planner as a hobby (although she books 6-12 weddings/events a year) so although she drives me insane, as you can tell by other threads), she has been helpful as far as checking items off, but so far we have done –
- Church – singers and pianist are reserved, just have to decide on readers and servers.
- Reception Hall – Food is included with this, just have to set up tasting about a month out from our date
- Save the Dates – We felt like we needed to do this mostly because we have a lot of out of town and distance family members that will need time to plan and sending out invites only about 3 months’ prior won’t be enough time.
- Decided on desserts – Fiance and I are not huge cake fans, but are having our mutual friend who has her own bakery business make our small cake to cut into for ceremonial reasons. Otherwise we opted for cookies and pies as our main dessert options, having family members each make a few dozen cookies and pies. This choice was also sentimental for us too.
- Picked out main songs – Family dances, plus Fiance and I’s first dance song… still need to outline a few “must-have” songs played and get that to the DJ
- Bridal party – I just need to formally ask my girls, still trying on a cute way to do this.
- Color scheme – Groom and his guy’s tuxes we won’t go for sizing until after the new year (local store)
- My dress – Found the one, just need to order and that will be done before Christmas.
I think that is everything so far… we are also going to be booking a photographer in the next few weeks. My grandpa is a photographer so we aren’t too concerned about finding someone, plus we both don’t need someone who charges $5,000, as long as we have nice photos. Then, also have been talking to a travel agent and researching honeymoon options. I’ll also be designing our wedding invites, so I’ll probably start on those soon just so they are a work in progress. We also have a rough idea on decorations and have already bought some of them. Flowers, we have talked about and will go after the new year to book the florist and talk over design ideas.
For those who were engaged for a short amount of time, what major things did you have done soon, what things did you put off? Anyone think I am forgetting anything? Everything is so exciting but also stressful and I’m trying to stay organized and sane!
Post # 2
i had a 7 month engagement, i could have planned our wedding in 4 months.
we booked all vendors in the first 2 months. we didn’t have many people involved, only Darling Husband, my mom, and myself were involved and knew anything. wedding party was of course ok with the date.
anyone asked me anything, i said you will have to wait and see. i didn’t share details as i didn’t care for anyone’s opinion.
i found wedding planning pretty easy and stress free.
Post # 3
kmmq72 : I had a 3 month engagement.
First priorities were: Venue & Invitations. Nothing happened before that. Custom Etsy cake topper was our first purchase lol, was a 2 month wait. Then Dress. Photographer was difficult to find 2.5 months out, do not wait. Makeup artist was harder to find than anything, so I do not suggest waiting on that! Florists (and DJ) seemed really easy to find, but it was not on our “priority” list so we just went with vendors that had lots of good reviews on The Knot and Weddingwire who were also in our budget. DJ, Minimoon and Photobooth were all Darling Husband, he’s a rockstar.
Small last min details: Things we put off until the end: gifts, tuxes, readings, writing vows, decor, favors. We used Etsy and Amazon prime for a lot of little items (cake servers, Mr & Mrs chair backers, custom champagne flutes). Also waited til a month before to order my garter, shoes, jewelry, custom pajamas, etc. Hairpins were my something borrowed, purse was my something old. And i waited until the weekend before to get some quick decor for the rehearsal dinner and my rehearsal dinner outfit. Gift bags we assembled 2 days before, of course, lol. Thank you cards for groom, parents and wedding party were written the at 2am the day before.
Post # 4
I apoligze for posting this twice! I deleted the original thread, but The Bee had marked it as spam when I tried to post earlier!
ajillity81 : I’ve been around weddings as well my entire life and also am a planner. Most of what I listed was decided on a week within getting engaged, planning everything just comes so easily. Handling the stress is a different story.
lowkeybridetobe : Photographer we aren’t worried about, but I know how they book up fast. Florist is local (like has known me since a kid) and so I knew she would do my flowers no matter what. All your little details are good to know though! Decorations and those I know we will wait until closer to start doing. Same goes for gifts for my bridesmaids and tuxes for the guys. One of my friends (also a bridesmaid, hopefully) is fantastic at make-up so that is already “booked”.
Post # 5
Sounds like you’ve got all the big stuff nailed down! We were officially engaged for four months and did the wedding planning in the same order. First the venue, officiant, musician and save the dates for those who had to travel a long way. Then the dress. Then all the small stuff, with the plan being that if something didn’t work out we wouldn’t stress it. The bulk of the small things were handled in the two weeks before the wedding.
I also didn’t ask my bridesmaids to do or wear anything special, so that took out worrying about their dresses or what happens if someone can’t show up (yup, one of them sadly could not make it at the last minute).
We did have a couple of “we should have just eloped!!!” moments in the last two weeks, but overall it wasn’t that stressful.
Post # 6
bubbles00 : Ha, ironically Fiance and I are going to Las Vegas in two weeks… with my mother drama over this wedding it is SO tempting to get married there and we joke about it. HOWEVER, it is equally important for us to get married in the church (Catholic). We seem similar to you, not let the small details stress us out. We aren’t gonna throw a fit if we don’t get one type of liquor we both want. Though, like you, I am letting my bridesmaids choose their style of dresses! Mostly because I want them to be comfortable, as long as they are the same color.
Post # 7
We had about a 9 month enagagement too! It seems like you have all the planning under control..I was the same way. The last month or two we were just tinkering with gifts and welcome bags and little details, so we probably could have done it in 7. I think the key to not stressing is to give each decision you make a lot of thought while you’re making it, and then trust yourself, move forward and don’t second guess anything! You’ll drive yourself crazy if you let yourself overthink it.
Post # 8
lol, we got engaged around noonish and by around 2 pm the next day we were married. married in Vegas, a drive thru ceremony…lol. on the drive to vegas i planned on what dress i was going to buy at the first mall we see. At the end i wore jeans and a cute top. It was fun but sometimes i wish i had a big wedding with family and friends. 🙁
Post # 9
My official engagement is actually only 3 and a half months. My Fiance and I started getting the venue and wedding date set and other details like that about 3 months before he proposed with the ring. Since we knew we wanted to get married, but had to wait for the ring because of financial reasons. It was not a problem to go ahead and take care of those details. I really think that is what kept us mostly sane through the whole wedding planning process. It took a lot of stress off, since by the time we were officially engaged some of the important details was already taken care of.
Post # 10
We had a 9 month engagement but only had 6 months for planning (just didn’t get started planning anything the first 3 months) once we decided on time of wedding we were able to book all vendors in about one to two months. So all vendors were planned with 4 months to go. Then I worked on my dress, colors, & bridesmaid dresses Over the last 4 months, I worked on the little things- like decor, ceremony details, music, etc. and everything just kind of fell in place. I planned & did everything by myself found it fun & stress free (I LOVE researching & planning events)
Post # 11
We had a 5 month engagement. It wasn’t stressful at all, but we kept the whole thing pretty small. Our venue was free, we did dinner at our favorite restaurant. We spent a day contacting vendors about chair rentals, and a porta-potty (our venue was remote and didn’t have facilities). I did a trip out of town with my daughter, my BM’s, and met my mom to go dress shopping. I let the BM’s just pick any dress that was some variety of taupe or grey. I never felt pressed for time, but I definitely attribute that to how low key we kept everything!