Who else had a short engagement and how did you stay sane/organized?

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
9173 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i had a 7 month engagement, i could have planned our wedding in 4 months.

we booked all vendors in the first 2 months.  we didn’t have many people involved, only Darling Husband, my mom, and myself were involved and knew anything. wedding party was of course ok with the date.

anyone asked me anything, i said you will have to wait and see.  i didn’t share details as i didn’t care for anyone’s opinion.

i found wedding planning pretty easy and stress free.


Post # 3
94 posts
Worker bee

kmmq72 :  I had a 3 month engagement.

First priorities were: Venue & Invitations. Nothing happened before that. Custom Etsy cake topper was our first purchase lol, was a 2 month wait. Then Dress. Photographer was difficult to find 2.5 months out, do not wait. Makeup artist was harder to find than anything, so I do not suggest waiting on that! Florists (and DJ) seemed really easy to find, but it was not on our “priority” list so we just went with vendors that had lots of good reviews on The Knot and Weddingwire who were also in our budget. DJ, Minimoon and Photobooth were all Darling Husband, he’s a rockstar.

Small last min details: Things we put off until the end: gifts, tuxes, readings, writing vows, decor, favors. We used Etsy and Amazon prime for a lot of little items (cake servers, Mr & Mrs chair backers, custom champagne flutes). Also waited til a month before to order my garter, shoes, jewelry, custom pajamas, etc. Hairpins were my something borrowed, purse was my something old. And i waited until the weekend before to get some quick decor for the rehearsal dinner and my rehearsal dinner outfit. Gift bags we assembled 2 days before, of course, lol. Thank you cards for groom, parents and wedding party were written the at 2am the day before.

Post # 5
649 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Sounds like you’ve got all the big stuff nailed down! We were officially engaged for four months and did the wedding planning in the same order. First the venue, officiant, musician and save the dates for those who had to travel a long way. Then the dress. Then all the small stuff, with the plan being that if something didn’t work out we wouldn’t stress it. The bulk of the small things were handled in the two weeks before the wedding.

I also didn’t ask my bridesmaids to do or wear anything special, so that took out worrying about their dresses or what happens if someone can’t show up (yup, one of them sadly could not make it at the last minute).

We did have a couple of “we should have just eloped!!!” moments in the last two weeks, but overall it wasn’t that stressful.

Post # 7
33 posts
  • Wedding: August 2016

We had about a 9 month enagagement too! It seems like you have all the planning under control..I was the same way. The last month or two we were just tinkering with gifts and welcome bags and little details, so we probably could have done it in 7. I think the key to not stressing is to give each decision you make a lot of thought while you’re making it, and then trust yourself, move forward and don’t second guess anything! You’ll drive yourself crazy if you let yourself overthink it. 

Post # 8
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2006

lol, we got engaged around noonish and by around 2 pm the next day we were married. married in Vegas, a drive thru ceremony…lol. on the drive to vegas i planned on what dress i was going to buy at the first mall we see. At the end i wore jeans and a cute top. It was fun but sometimes i wish i had a big wedding with family and friends. 🙁

Post # 9
46 posts

My official engagement is actually only 3 and a half months. My Fiance and I started getting the venue and wedding date set and other details like that about 3 months before he proposed with the ring. Since we knew we wanted to get married, but had to wait for the ring because of financial reasons. It was not a problem to go ahead and take care of those details. I really think that is what kept us mostly sane through the whole wedding planning process. It took a lot of stress off, since by the time we were officially engaged some of the important details was already taken care of.

Post # 10
787 posts
Busy bee

We had a 9 month engagement but only had 6 months for planning (just didn’t get started planning anything the first 3 months) once we decided on time of wedding we were able to book all vendors in about one to two months. So all vendors were planned with 4 months to go. Then I worked on my dress, colors, & bridesmaid dresses  Over the last 4 months, I worked on the little things- like decor, ceremony details, music, etc. and everything just kind of fell in place. I planned & did everything by myself found it fun & stress free (I LOVE researching & planning events) 

Post # 11
3873 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We had a 5 month engagement. It wasn’t stressful at all, but we kept the whole thing pretty small. Our venue was free, we did dinner at our favorite restaurant. We spent a day contacting vendors about chair rentals, and a porta-potty (our venue was remote and didn’t have facilities). I did a trip out of town with my daughter, my BM’s, and met my mom to go dress shopping. I let the BM’s just pick any dress that was some variety of taupe or grey. I never felt pressed for time, but I definitely attribute that to how low key we kept everything! 

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