(Closed) Who else is bracing themself for the letdown?

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
302 posts
Helper bee


It will happen someday ^_^  and who knows it might be this weekend.

Good luck!

Post # 4
1428 posts
Bumble bee

Aww CHK – even if it doesn’t happen this weekend for you it sounds like you & your man are going to have wonderful romantic weekend together!
I’m not expecting any sort of proposal until next year and knowing my guy, if he had it his way he’d do it in the power tool aisle of Lowe’s – his favorite place…LOL!

Post # 5
81 posts
Worker bee

not so much for this weekend, but last week was our 3 year anniversary, and i spent waaay too much time bracing myself! literally, i would sit in my office and cover post-its writing "he is not going to propose, let it go, don’t get your hopes up…" etc all over them for a couple days before (yes, i’m a total, total nerd…)! and lo and behold, no proposal. very nice dinner and fun, romantic night, but no ring. and that’s okay….

sounds like an awesome trip, have so much fun!

Post # 6
321 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I understand the waiting game.

I waited a long time past the ring having been purchased and all because of the cost of a stupid rock….his doing not mine. I would have taken anything.

I had finally decided after a few disappointing visits that I would give him until X date and at that time…it was sink or swim. I wasn’t going to wait forever and he kept telling me I was the one and only and I was like, well, doesn’t feel like it because I am still naked fingered. Sure, enough, he proposed and a good thing because he was running out of days, literally days like 3 more days and he would have been put on separation.

Post # 7
10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

We are definitely >>>here<<<<.  Today is my birthday.  I so know he’s not going to ask so I am strangely relieved.  I am tired of wondering if today is THE day.  He and I have a date set of next New Years Eve so as long as he asks me this year, we’re good.  Now the closer to this New Years Eve we get, the antsier I probably will if we aren’t engaged.

Post # 8
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Not Monday (I’m Canadian), but I understand mentally preparing yourself for what might not be coming when you hope it will. For me, it’s my birthday this September. He knows that I don’t want him to propose until my internship ends. My internship ends 3 weeks before my birthday, and that’s when I move back in with him. So my birthday will be the first significant event after we move back in together, and I don’t want to get my hopes up.

Post # 9
2408 posts
Buzzing bee

i do that before every visit with the boy. lol and last christmas he cut to the chase and told me it wasn’t happening [we went shopping for rings instead]. though part of it is talking everyone else down [because they’re more anxious than we are!] because i have found that when you go away with your boyfriend and come back still not engaged, people get super disappointed!

Post # 10
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I just have no expectations right now even though he says differently.  le sigh.  But I’m not worried.  I’m with Mizunoheaven though..no secret here.  Till Jan 1.  Why?  he claims it’s going to be next summer and I told him I require a minimum of six months of planning including a move and consolidating two households (his and mine). 

To me, that date will represent six months left.  If no, then I go. 

I am just not worried about it anymore.  I just don’t.  I enjoy each day and am just plain happy.  Plus I am one who appears about 10 years younger than those my age so I am ok with that too.  Good job, great friends, the most wonderful child in the world, and pets we both love and adore!

What is really making me happy this weekend is my son is going to be in our county’s Fourth of July Parade and riding on a political candidate’s float with him (friend of mine)!!!  His first parade and is he psyched!!!      

CHK, don’t worry about it.  It will happen in due time.  ALL signs were there for us in March when we went on a vacation to Jamaica.  It had many good components (perfect sunsets, time alone, etc..and then we had issues with our hotel and i had a horrid allergic reaction on the last day…and I have been convinced since then our perfect alone couple time just went poof.  Then I turned 40.  Poof.  Plus I had the stomach flu on my birthday just two and a half mos. ago.  Imho, most of the romantic holidays have passed.  I love the 4th, but it’s not one of my biggest. 

You will know when it will happen because it will happen.  And if too much time passes and your heart is just too weary, you will also know what to do if and when that day does come. 

Just relax, have a wonderful time, and forgeddaboutdit!

That’s my mantra now.  "forgeddaboutdit".

Until Jan. 1 2010 that is..because if my left finger is unadorned on that day he will have to forgeddabout ME!  

Post # 12
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Ooh, could be something good.  So tough trying to get your mind off it.  Hang in there. 

Post # 13
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

you know what the funny thing is?

the thought of a proposal crossed my mind on thursday before the start of our holiday weekend, but then as we were actually enjoying the days off together, it was the furthest thing from my mind.  i guess thats a good thing. since we first went ring shopping (browsing) waayyyy back in December 2008….and now christmas, new years, my birthday, valentine’s day, president’s day weekend, HIS birthday (yes, im selfish, but wouldnt I make a wonderful birthday gift to himself by buying me a wonderful ring and him telling he nothing would make him happier on his birthday than to spend the rest of his life with me?!?!?!?  hehe.), memorial day weekend, and now july 4th weekend have all come and gone.  like i posted in another post, im really just trying to enjoy this time of the year bc its my favorite (YAY SUMMER!) and also just enjoy this time we have togehter KNOWING its coming, and (hopefully) soon!

Post # 14
24 posts

Oh, trust me. I completely understand this. My Boyfriend or Best Friend was teasing me all last week, implying that he had bought my ring ( he already took me to pick it out.) Then, this weekend I was teasing him back about it and he told me he definitely hasn’t bought it yet. I’m so confused! haha. Maybe he wants me to be?  Don’t fret, we are all there with you!

Post # 16
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

LOL CHK… I’m right there with ya on the engagement brain. I turn everyday scenarios into "the moment" too! May not have been a big sparkly, but still a sweet gesture.. love men like that!

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