(Closed) Who else is seeing their hubby the a.m. of the wedding.

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 16
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523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We aren’t seeing each other- we both are looking to spend time with our bridesmaids/groomsmen the night before and think the tradition is cute. However, if we were getting married close to where we live, I’m sure we’d just stay at home with each other. But since hotels are in the picture anyway, we decided to stick with the tradition.

 

I would just tell your family that your relationship is held together by love, friendship, trust, etc and that superstitions don’t keep you together, and they can’t they break you up, either.

Post # 17
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7397 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

DH and I stayed together the night before our wedding, in our home. We’d lived together for for about 7 years before we got married so it wasn’t a big deal to us. We woke up early the day of, and DH headed out while I stayed and got ready at our house with my girls.

Seeing each other before the ceremony is an old tradition that dates back to arranged marriages, where the bride/groom were kept apart so that the groom couldn’t see the bride and change his mind. It goes right along with using flowers at weddings, to cover up the smell of a bride who had not bathed, and not as decoration. Just like the veil stayed over the face until the vows had been said, to hide the appearence of the bride until it was a “done deal”.

Post # 18
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2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think it’s silly.  We live together and we’re doing first looks, so obviously, we’re going to see each other before the wedding.  When anyone gives you a hard time, just say “Well, isn’t that an interesting way of looking at it”, smile and change the subject.

Post # 19
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481 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

We’ll be staying the night together, in our home, the night before the wedding. We’ll get up and probably shower and have breakfast together, then go our separate ways to get ready before the ceremony. An hour before the ceremony, we’ll be taking first look photos. 

I don’t care about traditions and superstitions. We love each other and going through such a stressful day without seeing one another would make things 10x worse.

Post # 20
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757 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

we are!

Going out for breakfast to our favourite joint and then we will head our separate ways.  We will meet up for first look photos and then back to our house (where we’re getting hitched 🙂

Post # 21
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421 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle

Im not going to see my Fiance the day of but its not because of tradition!

I am re-colouring my hair red and want to keep it a suprise! I have confirmed that he loves me with red hair (have had it before) as this wil match the red lace boot i will be wearing.. 🙂 So mine is purely because its a suprise! and i want to give a real shock factor!.. lol he might even be banished for a few days before depending on what my hair salon sugests?!

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think that me & my fiance are going to stay the night together the night before too. We have a house together & have an amazing temperpedic mattress and neither of us want to go sleep on someone’s couch. I can’t anyways bc I have back problems and that’s actually the reason why we have that mattress.

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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busybeebee:  We’re doing the same thing. At first my parents thought it was weird, although they weren’t against it, and now no one cares. And I think Fiance and I will both sleep a lot better for it!

Post # 24
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621 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We will be!!

We already live together, however the wedding is in a different city so we will be spending our wedding eves night in a hotel together. We will probably go get breakfast together too before we part until the first look photos. Our wedding day is about us, so of course I want to be with him as much as I can. I think it will also help with the nerves (:

Post # 25
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2868 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We spent the night together before the wedding because we knew we sleep so much better together than apart and wanted to get good sleep, no other reason lol.  I don’t particularly care about the supposed bad superstition associated with it.  We parted ways in the morning (I went to brunch with my mom, sister, and other bridesmaids, and he went off to hang out with his dad and groomsmen) and then we were apart until the wedding in the late afternoon.  Worked for us! And we are happily married so far! lol

Post # 26
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Newbee

We picked the dress together and people were shocked and said it was wrong. I said well, we as couple make descisons  that are best for us not what superstious traditions say is best and that is what I say for waking up the wedding morning together. 

Post # 27
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9541 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We spent the night together and it was nice to see him in the morning and be excited together. We did split up when it was time to start getting ready and that was also nice, to have some time with my girls. Then we did first look photos and proceeded with the rest of our  amazing wedding day!

Post # 27
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9541 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We spent the night together and it was nice to see him in the morning and be excited together. We did split up when it was time to start getting ready and that was also nice, to have some time with my girls. Then we did first look photos and proceeded with the rest of our  amazing wedding day!

Post # 29
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9076 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

When we actually and legally got married, I was with him the night before. I mean, we live together. Our parents were together in our home. That would be silly!<br /><br />When we had our wedding ceremony later in June, I again stayed with him. I was told not to as it would be bad luck, but I was like, whatever.

Post # 30
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799 posts
Busy bee

We’re not staying together, but not because of traditions or luck. Instead he booked our honeymoon suite for the night before our wedding so we wouldn’t have to mess with checking in on the day of with all the crazy that could happen. Plus, he’s bonding with my dad, brother, and his dad at a baseball game. I wanted to spend some time with my mom and friends – we live together so one night a part won’t kill us. 

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