Post # 1
I will tell you that if you can write your own vows, thats great. But for me, the possibility of writing my own, terrifies me to the core and its just another thing to worry about and get done.
I like to write in a journal, but anything else, I suck at it. Trying to think of words that are meaningful and doesnt make me sound horrible? Ugh.
Ive never been good at words. I cant even debate with someone about important issues because I cant think of what to say. After the debate, I start getting the right words.lol
But I realized that even if we dont write our own vows, the ceremony is still going to be great. And Im at peace with that. 🙂
Post # 3
I like writing and am comfortable expressing myself, but I like the traditional vows and I thnk we’re going to stick with those. Maybe alter them slightly, but I’m just not into the personalized vows thing.
ETA – Ooh! Busy Bee status! 😀
Post # 4
I got married in the catholic church so we couldnt write our own vows – i really loved the vows we used though and i was actually happy that i didnt have to write my own – im not very good at that stuff. all i had to do was memorize them.
Post # 5
It’s totally okay not to write your own vows. I really didn’t want to, but my husband felt it was something that he really wanted to do, and I thought that was so sweet that I went along with it. It worked out nicely, but not everyone has to do it that way. You can have a beautiful ceremony by doing the traditional vows! Just write your Fiance a letter on your wedding day. 🙂 Good substitute.
Post # 6
I like writing, and Fiance and I are both reasonably adequate at expressing ourselves through words (we met in law school in an advocacy class), but we are not writing our own vows. We might write each other letters or something to read before the ceremony, but we want to keep the inner workings of our relationship to ourselves instead of putting them on display for our parents’ cousins’ plus ones or whoever else is there. It’ll be obvious enough how happy and in love we are without personalized vows.
Post # 7
We didn’t write our own vows. There is something about the traditional vows that was really powerful and significant.
Post # 8
That is the same way I feel. It terrifies me! All I can picture is me saying “Mr.Sunflower, I love you. You make me…feel love. I can’t wait to love you for the rest of my life.” Lol. He also feels the same way. Just wants to get the vows done and over with, and on to being married. We tell eachother how we feel everyday, no big deal.
Post # 9
We’re not! My poor Fiance gets very nervous and he told me straight up that he did want to write vows and read them in front of everyone… It would just be too much pressure.
Plus I think there is something to be said about the traditional vows. 🙂
Post # 10
We’re not either, even though we both enjoy writing. We’re looking forward to hearing the simple, traditional words.
Post # 11
I’m not writing my own vows. I love the idea and sentiment behind it, BUT I have major public speaking fears, so the last thing I want to do is get up there and talk super fast our cry out of nervousness. Prior to the wedding we are giving each other (via our bridal party) our own private vows to one another that we have written.
Post # 12
We wrote our own vows, because we had specific things we wanted to include.
But, there’s nothing wrong with traditional vows. The most important thing about the ceremony is that it reflects your tastes and wishes as a couple.
Post # 13
I don’t know about writing my own…all I can think of is the Marilyn Monroe quote about being selfish, impatient, insecure and all that…and he definitely has handled me at my worst/deserves me at my best. I probably shouldn’t write my own. LOL
Post # 14
We’ve decided to go with traditional vows but alter them slightly to make them a bit more personal. We originally wanted to write our own vows but I get pretty nervous speaking in front of large groups and we both loved the traditional vows a lot. We decided to combine the two (:
Post # 15
We’re not writing out own vows. We both like that the traditional vows have been said by many generations before us. We’re also both pretty uncomfortable speaking in public, so we’re having our officiant ask us the vows and we’ll say, “I do.” That being said, we wanted to inject a little something personal, so we’ve decided to give our officiant a list of a few things we love about one another, and he’ll read those things to us before the traditional vows.
Post # 16
We are definitely NOT writing our own vows. I am a pretty decent writer but I just do not want to deal with the pressure that goes along with it! I need things to be simple in that area… haha!