(Closed) Who enjoys being a housewife?

posted 8 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I was solelyhousewife solely a housewife for a little over a year and then I had oBabbage boy and now I’m a housewife and stay at home mommy! I absolutely loved being a housewife. My dh and  I were raised with moms that stayed home and took care of the house so that’s what we both want. Even now with the little one I still do all the cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping, laundry, ironing, phone calls, appointments, etc… My hubby goes to work all day and handles the yard work on the weekends. We love it this way. I know it’s not for everyone, but we are very happy this way! I’m a proud housewife like you! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I will also say that this time (so far it’s been about 6 weeks) has really helped me re-eval my value in the workforce and what I really want in life.  I’m not going back to another job without making a specific amount salary or higher (DH agrees and actually thinks I should up it another 20% but he’s generous ha,) AND I realize now that starting a family, focusing on my health and enjoying our time as newlyweds is WAY WAY WAY more important than the $3500 I was bringing home a month.

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Ugh.  I wish I could stay home!!  I have some debt to pay off though, and I’d feel guilty quitting unless my debt and H’s student loans were completely paid off.  Once that happens it’s a real possibility though!

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It was difficult for me to adapt to the housewife lifestyle because I was a very carrier oriented woman before I met my husband. I lost my job as a professor of Gender Studies at the university and it has been really difficult for me to find another job to this day. The gender studies part is really ironic, because over a year ago I was explaining to my students the importance of the unpaid job of being a housewife and now I’m a housewife myself and I can check my theories first hand. Beside reassuring myself that it really is a lot of work, I must confess it started to grow on me. We want to have children soon, so I’m thinking about staying home a little longer. I think it’s very important for the child’s future and since I am able to do this, I should take this chance.

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Beach

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MrsShane:  I love being a housewife. I recently quit my job of 3 years and just opened my own business from home. My husband tells me all the time he doesn’t know how I can stay home all day, that it would drive him crazy. But I love cooking and cleaning and being able to make money while I’m home too is a bonus. I just started doing some yoga in my free time. It feels freeing to be able to get things done and not be on someone elses schedule every day. My husband and I recently started TTC and I’m happy to know that I will be home raising our children. I love being a SAHW!

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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MrsShane:  

I love it too! I just graduated this year and was lucky enough to be hired right away. I’m a teacher and this if my first summer not working my butt off. I clean the house, take care of the dog, focus on my health, do the cooking, and bake! I love baking and playing around in the kitchen, and my Fiance really likes when I do hehe. He’s a good cook and cooks like 90% of our meals, but when I’m home I get the chance to cook for him most of the time. I’m also using this time to plan to wedding!! I feel like that’s a full time job in itself. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 22
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I want the best of both I think- flexibility and working from home, project to project so not full time. FH and I are working on starting my business so that life is possible when it’s time for kids. Stay at home life but still creatively fulfilled and bringing in $$$

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee

I like staying home and taking care of chores. We currently rent an apartment, but I can’t wait to have my own house and garden. I want to grow vegetables, fruits and herbs. I might even have a few chicken.

However, I also intend to build my career and contribute to our mutual funds. It’s really important to me to feel that I’m doing my share, equally. I’ll support my husband while he finishes his diploma, and I want to achieve a few professional goals before I start seriously considering switching lifestyles. I’ve committed myself to studies all throughout my 20s. For that reason, I sacrificed many things that are important life goals to me, such as : traveling, buying a house, saving money for retirement, paying off my debts, getting married (although we’ve been engaged for more than a year and a half now, but not planning anymore until I find a stable job). If I want to do those things that will bring me personal fulfillment, I need to work full-time and bring home enough money. I don’t want to wait for my SO to be the one in charge. I feel very good having a paycheck every 2 weeks and being able to live off a fraction of it. It’s very empowering. When we both have stable jobs, our goal is to live off one income (the lowest) and save all the other’s, for a decade at least. After that, I’ll be in my early 40s and I can still decide if I want to stay home or pursue my career. For now, all I need is a good balance between professional and personal goals and accomplishments. As long as there is room for me to grow in those two areas, I’ll be a happy person !

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I work more than my fi, but I am currently making more money [it’s normal for me to put in 140 hours bi weekly… i’m exhausted most nights].

I would love to be a housewife but it’s just not doable right now. It’s not that we need the money, we would be fine if I didn’t work, just not as comfortable as we are now. The plan is for us to have the wedding, purchase a new house [all debt free], spend a few years as a married couple and then to have or adopt a few kids, at which point I will be a stay at home mom.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Not a Stay-At-Home Wife and not sure I could be one but I would love to work maybe 6 hours a day so I had more time at home. Just never seems to be enough time to get all of the work, chores and fun stuff done!

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

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pinkshoes:  yup, same here.

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I am super super lucky because I get to have the perks of working and staying at home. I’ve started running the family business and it’s not the kind of job where you have to clock in and put in x amount of hours per week; it’s very flexible and doesn’t eat up all my time. I do most of the daily cleaning up around the house but Fiance always cooks.

I love it because we’ll both be able to be stay at home once we’re married if we felt like it because my business is more than enough to support us, and we’ll have plenty of time for our hobbies and our future children. TBH though I doubt he’d ever be my stay at home hubby, that man loves what he does. ๐Ÿ™‚

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Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Train station ceremony / Hilton reception

OOH! I like this thread.

 

One of the first things my fiance and I connected on (out of many) was that we both liked the idea of me being his housewife.  We actually find it kinda sexy… me tying his tie in the morning, kissing him when he gets back, and having dinner ready / the house perfect for his return.    I guess it might seem old-fashioned but it’s more of me feeling protected by him and him feeling like I, in a way, am serving him.  It’s really cute!   We’re not quite at that point yet but in a few years, he should be making enough $ that we can realize that dream together.

 

I think being a housewife would be plenty busy for me.  I’m surprised to see some of you mention that you’d get too bored. I always find things to do in my spare time — working out, decorating, Pinterest (big one!), and I play piano.  Also, am I the only one that feels like doing things like taking care of my hair/skin takes forever!!?  There are a billion things that I can do like use exfoliaters or a mask on my face.  Nowadays I just don’t have time.  I’m lucky to be able to wash my face 2x a day!

The way I see it, any extra time after working out etc can be spent researching health-related topics and trying to make sure I use the best ingredients in our food to help prevent cancer and other diseases.

 

That way all he has to do is work, and everything else is ready for him and taken care of.  I think it will take a lot of stress off of him and hopefully help us have a more relaxed and rewarding relationship.  

Post # 29
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

A year ago I was working but since my Fiance got a better paying job that required us to moved states, I haven’t been able to go back to work. He travels quite a bit for his job throughout 3 different states and we have a 9 year old that I have to be home for to bring to and pick up from school. It was nice during the summer because we didn’t have to pay for daycare while I worked (which to be honest is kinda pointless because I’d essentially be working solely to pay for daycare, after gas expensese) While we are very comfortable and have no issues paying our bills, now that our daughter is back in school, I would like to try finding a more local job just to help with wedding costs since we aren’t married yet. So I guess you could say I’m a house “fiance” lol! We do have every intention of me staying home once we have more kids after our wedding though. The only difficult part is that I don’t have any friends where we live now to visit with or grab coffee with. I do, however, spend a lot of time cleaning the house, working in our yard and I’m constantly going through things and trying to get rid of them. ( My Fiance may possibly have another, much better, job offer) and if we have to move again, I’m not moving all our accumulated junk again! lol!

My Fiance also like the “1950’s” style of life as well. Mom stays home and dad goes and works. I pack his bags for him when he travels, I cook most of the meals, I make sure the house is clean when he gets home from traveling. Because honestly who doesn’t like coming home to a clean house after a week away?!

Anyway, hope this helps! ๐Ÿ™‚

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