Post # 1
My FBIL/FSIL asked this question and I realized I had no idea. They didn’t have a ring bearer at their wedding so they don’t know how it goes either. Their son is going to be our ring bearer, he’ll be 1.5 years old. Anyway, does the ring bearer carry both rings down the aisle? Or does he just carry one or the other? And will the best man just take the rings from him? Or does the best man carry one ring/both rings the whole time making the ring bearer just a cute little man walking down the aisle?
What are you guys planning to do with the rings?
Post # 3
The maid of honor carries the man’s ring and the best man carries the girl’s ring. The maid of honor can put the ring on her thumb so that she doesn’t drop it.
Post # 4
I’m having a ring bearer but we’re probably just going to get some fake rings to tie to the pillow/plate or whatever we’re going to use. I’m with MissAsB – I’m giving my FI’s ring to my Maid/Matron of Honor and he’s giving mine to his best man.
Post # 5
Usually they’re fake rings tied to the pillow. The Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man carry the rings, or in my case, we just carried each others rings (I had his on one of my fingers and then pulled it off when it was time to exchange.
Post # 6
@jennifer: I’ve been wondering this too…
So then, the ring bearer doesn’t actually carry the rings at all? Does that look strange for the ring bearer to be at the front and not actually supply the rings?
Post # 7
I wouldn’t give the ring bearer real rings either. I would just sew some fake rings onto the pillow. You don’t want little kids with rings because they might drop them or do something worse.
I haven’t been to a wedding with a ring bearer but I think that they just take the pillow up to the front and then go sit with their parents. I can’t imagine them standing up at the front for the whole ceremony. It is hard enough for adults to stand still that long.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2009 - Byodo-In Temple, Luau Reception
If you have a ring bearer, typically they would carry both rings. But really, there are no real rules and anything goes.
We didn’t have a ring bearer (or a wedding party), so I had my brother carry our rings. He sat with my mom and dad in the first row, so when the officiant asked for the rings, he just walked up to her and handed them to her.
If you’re worried about giving such valuable items to a 1.5 year old, you could have someone from your wedding party hold the rings instead. There’s no right or wrong way to do it.
Post # 9
Gemstone- I have heard what the bee’s are saying before. I think we should buy some inexpensive fakes. So he doesn’t look silly without a ring. I’m not sure how old yours is but I don’t trust mine with expensive rings! There is a lot that can happen on a short walk down the aisle for a one and half year old! Lol.
Post # 10
@jennifer – I wouldn’t even worry about buying inexpensive fakes – no one will notice. I had an 18 month old ring bearer too, and my brother ended up carrying him (and the ring pillow) down the aisle 🙂 Our best man had both rings in his jacket pocket.
Post # 11
We have no ring bearer, but we are putting our rings in a cute little silver chest, so we’ve got to have one person carry both of them. I’m thinking it will be the best man, since the Maid/Matron of Honor will have her hands busy with her bouquet.
Post # 12
Since there are no little boys in our families, we’re going to have two eight-year-old girls carry our rings on ring bearer pillows. Not too worried about an eight-year-old losing the ring, I mean, it will be tied to the darn thing. 😉
Post # 13
Here are my thoughts:
Honestly, I wouldn’t give my real rings to a cute little fellow in a mini-tuxedo. 🙂 His job is to look cute. period 🙂
I would (and did) give MY ring to Bridesmaid or Best Man and DH’s ring to Maid/Matron of Honor. It was easy and reliable that way.
That being said, if you choose to have you your wedding party hold the rings, I wouldn’t do “fake rings” on a pillow. I would simply have your cute little ring bearer walk down the aisle, perhaps escorting the flower girl(s)….I just think it’s kind of weird to have him carry fake rings on a pillow. JMHO…