(Closed) Who for the MOH?

posted 12 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What should I do?

    Ask the cousin who lives here

    Ask the friend (considered "sister") who lives far away

    Ask my mom

    Not have a MOH or Other

  • Post # 3
    754 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2008

    I just don’t see that any of the people you mentioned are Maid/Matron of Honor material.  It’s really OK to not have one.

    Post # 4
    9 posts

    I would not ask your mom (because she has enough on her plate as mother of the bride) and I would not ask your cousin since you were not invited to the wedding and you are clearly not feeling close to her.  Your Maid/Matron of Honor is supposed to be the captain of your bridal party so you need someone a) who is organized and b) who is close to you.  Neither of my MOHs (I have two!) live in my city but they have both done a wonderful job in helping me with the wedding and the bachelorette/bridal shower planning.  I would ask your friend who lives in CA and not worry about the facebook "top friend" thing.  At the end of the day, weddings are about the people who mean the most to you and she clearly is important to you.  She might feel more distant because you haven’t kept in touch as much but having her as your Maid/Matron of Honor will bring both of you closer again and there is something to be said about history.  I would definitely have an Maid/Matron of Honor or otherwise it becomes a bit disorganized but it is totally ok not to have one…after all, it is your wedding and what you want (and the groom) goes!!!

    Post # 5
    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think it’s completely ok to not have a Maid/Matron of Honor.  Maybe you can just spread out the Maid/Matron of Honor duties among several people– like ask your old friend if she can help plan your shower since she’s awesome at events, or something like that.

    Nothing wrong with being nontraditional if it doesn’t fit your situation or your needs!  The wedding is about you and your Fiance, after all, and the people you love.

    Post # 6
    7081 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2009

    You don’t need a maid of honor.  I’m not having one either… but it does seem that you have a very special relationship with your mom, so why not ask her to do the honor.  You guys may decide that because of the added responsibility, it won’t work… but if it could, wouldn’t that be awesome?

    Post # 7
    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Boy I’d have to go with NO ONE.  Your mom should enjoy being the MOB.  Your cousin clearly didn’t feel you were important enough to even be there for her wedding, your friend lives on the other coast, and would only really stand there for the ceremony.  I’d just have bridesmaids and no Maid/Matron of Honor.

    Post # 8
    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    I might likely agree to the no Maid/Matron of Honor.  I don’t think it should be the cousin.  And I’m not digging the Facebook friend who stole your boyfriends.  The Future Sister-In-Law, is really there because of your brother (if you two really got close in a hurry, that would be one thing…)  What about the MN friend?  You didn’t say much about her.  If you’re close to her, I wouldn’t discount her because she’s in MN.  It’s not ideal, but it’s been done.  If you really want a Maid/Matron of Honor, she might be the one.

    I don’t know that I would put more responsibility on MOM.  BUt she could be your witness instead of the Maid/Matron of Honor, if you decide not to have one.

    Post # 9
    5398 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    If not one is worthy of the title, you shouldn’t give it to anyone since you don’t actually have to have one.  So, I voted for No Maid/Matron of Honor.

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