(Closed) who generally throws the parties?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Anyone but the bride who decides that they want to!

Often times the wedding party / Maid/Matron of Honor will host them but sometimes it’s aunts, cousins, grandmas, other friends, etc.  I’d say on average they occur in the 1-4 months leading up to the wedding but again – the timeframe is pretty open to whenever they want to plan it.

Post # 4
3762 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I agree, I heard 2-3 months is best but if you have to stretch it to 1-4 months thats fine as well. 

My BM’s threw me a small BBQ where my Fiance and I live for our friends and my mom’s best friend threw me a shower in my hometown with more of my parents friends. 

Post # 5
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I just had my first shower, 5 months from my wedding, but that was because I will not be back to my hometown before the wedding, but was home for Christmas!

My sister/MOH threw the shower for me, but my Future Mother-In-Law is also planning to have one. I agree that typically anyone but the bride throws the parties 🙂

My sister and my other BMs are planning the bachelorette!

Post # 6
659 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m throwing my own mani/pedi ‘gathering’ the morning before my wedding for 6 people (6 invited, anyway) because I have no wedding party and have a few girlfriends I’d like to spend time with before the day. 

I’m sure this is a rare situation, but it fit budget and time restrictions – I’m going to bring some wine and chocolates to the nail place. 

Post # 8
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Pretty much anybody who wants to can throw these parties for you.  There is some debate that it’s not good ettiquette for someone who’s closely related throwing you a shower, since it’s asking for gifts.  However I was a long distance Maid/Matron of Honor once, and one of four bridesmaids who were also all out of towners.  The mother of the bride picked up our slack and hosted the shower at her house.

As for timing, I had my shower about a month before, and my bachelorette about a month and a half before.  My bridesmaids were all out of town, and so is my mom, so it was all about accommodating their schedules.

Post # 9
987 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I didn’t want a shower because I find it gift-grabbing and boring for guests.  My BMs organised the bachelorette party.

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