(Closed) Who Gets a Tip ?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee

First of all, you never tip anyone before the event. You wait until after the wedding is over and you come down from Cloud 9, and analyze each one to see who went above and beyond for you. You do *not* tip for bad or mediocre service, and if you wish to tip a business owner, you have the right to do so, if they did an outstanding job.

Tip what you feel they deserved based on the great service they provided (again, you do not tip for bad service or simply doing their job), not what some generic chart says you should pay.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

GREAT question!  I was just thinking about this today.  I think hair and makeup get tip happiness, but everyone else doesn’t.  I mean, I’m paying $2500 for my photographer…I’m NOT tipping you also.  And for cake delivery, it’s their job and my cake people are charging me for delivery, so whay would I tip you too?  But seriously, would love to see what others think about this.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’ve been wondering the same thing!  Also, how about the wedding coordinator our venue provides?  We are paying $3800 for the venue and she is included in the price.  Do I still tip?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I only tipped the hair person because I always tip when I get a haircut so I figured I should tip for an updo too.

We thought about tipping the photog after we received all our photos, but we never did because we were out of money by that point and figured we already paid him enough any way.  Plus how much should you tip him?  10%?  That’d be like an extra $250 and that just seemed like too much to us.

We may have tipped the DJ if he had done well, but our DJ sucked balls.  The sound system kept cutting out and freaking out the guests, he didn’t dress as he promised to, he went outside and took smoke breaks all the time, played multiple songs twice, and played some shitty 20 minute long hair rock song.  WTH!  No tip for him.

We didn’t tip the caterer or servers because there was already a hefty service fee in all those costs.  That was good enough in our opinion.

The limo already included the tip in the price.

So basically the only person I tipped was the hairstylist.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t know if this was correct etiquette-wise, but we tipped the hair dresser and photographe (we did everything else DIY, so they were honestly our only vendors.) I just rounded up to the nearest hundred for each of them, so I gave them each like a $50 tip.

I think it depends on how much you are spending originally, how well they did, etc. PPs are right: NEVER tip beforehand! Tipping is an extra bonus for having done an awesome job, not a requirement if they don’t do well.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@amariem25:LOL! That’s what i was thinking about the photographer!  There’s no way in hell I’m tipping $250!  And the tips are included in my venue price, so bartender is on his own with the cash cup (open bar for beer/wine, liquor is extra).  Well, maybe I’ll tip them, depends on how quickly I get drinks! 

I’m actually going to run this question by my venue’s manager next time we chat.  But seriously, tipping is something i don’t feel is necessary.  It’s not the pizza boy!

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I tipped the hair person and the make up person.  I’ve read here that the rule of thumb is that that dont need to tip owners (dj/photographer for me was ‘owner’) unless you want to since they already pocket everything.  But then when I thought about it, my hair and mu person was also their own business and pocketing their whole rate, so did I not need to tip them either?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I say you tip whoever you feel did a good job. If you don’t have the money to tip, then don’t worry about it. I think we ended up tipping our bagpiper (he was amazing!!!) and possibly our DJ. My parents took care of tips so I really don’t know what ended up happening. When it’s all said and done, it won’t be that big of a deal to not tip since like you said, they are making a killing (most of them).

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

We wouldn’t allow tip cups on the bars, so we did tip our bartenders, $100. each. We also tipped the servers $50. each. Event coordinator, maitre’d,driver and stylist each got $100.

We handed them out individually before the end of the night, but the DJ and photographer were mailed their’s after the fact.

Post # 12
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197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I will be tipping our DJ, and my make-up/hair lady.  I don’t feel the need to tip the caterer and photographer…

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh man, we tipped practically EVERYONE! Hair, makeup, limo, dj, all 3 photogs, caterer, coordinator, the preist, the canter, the bartender….
The only people we didn’t tip were the florist, the lighting guy and the organist because they all owned their own businesses and received 100% what they were paid for the gig.

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