(Closed) Who gets flowers?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

the bridal party gets bouts and bouqs where appropriate, moms and grandmas get corsages, dads and grandads get bouts.

You make the call for step parents and whatnot.  My fiance’s parents divorced while he was in college but his parents’ signifigant other and spouse are getting corsages.  I am also giving corsages to the officiant and her mother who are close family friends.  I’d rather make a few more corsages and have everyone feel loved and included than be stingy on something so small that would make people feel happy.

Post # 5
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

According to the Post Institute, and Peggy Post’s *Wedding Etiquette*


A Boutonniere, worn by the Groom and his Attendants on their left lapels, makes for a festive and unstated grace note to the men’s attire. Understated, and small scale are the key words: The Groom and his Groomsmen should never appear to be wearing corsages. A Boutonniere may be any flower, but it should be a hardy variety that won’t wilt or crush easily. Usually, the Groom wears a flower that is also used in his Bride’s Bouquet, and Groomsmen wear a Boutonniere that complements that of the Groom. A small-scale white or ivory rose, lily of the valley, stephanotis, or freesia is equally elegant and understated and may or may not be wired with greens.


It is traditional for Fathers, StepFathers, Mothers, and StepMothers to receive Boutonnieres or Corsages for the Wedding Ceremony. In addition, the Bride and Groom may want to give flowers to GrandMothers, GrandFathers, GodMothers, GodFathers, or any other significant people in their lives.

If you want to surprise people with flowers and don’t know what they will be wearing, white or ivory are safe choices. Wrist or purse corsages are also a smart idea for the women on your list, since they may be wearing something that they don’t want pinned or that a shoulder corsage would not complement.

Hope this helps,


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