Post # 1
Which of your family and party are getting gifts?
What are you giving them?
We’re giving a little something to our attendants, but I’m not sure what I would do for everyone else. I feel like the weekend is our gift to everyone, but I don’t want anyone to feel hurt because they expected to be gifted a keepsake sort of thing.
Post # 3
What do you mean by “the weekend is our gift to everyone”?
We’re giving gifts to everyone in our bridal party (3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, 2 ushers, 1 ring bearer), both sets of parents, my aunt and uncle (who are the parents of our ushers and ring bearer – they’ve been there for me my whole life and will be helping out a great deal with our wedding) and our officient, who will hopefully be my cousin if we can get her legally ordained to perform our ceremony.
Bridesmaids: Chocolate brown cashmere sweaters & gift certificates to their favorite stores.
Groomsmen & Ushers: Custom Nikes from NikeID.com to match our wedding colors.
Ring Bearer: Undecided
Parents: Gift certificate to BnBfinder.com. Its a site that sells gift certificates to hundreds of bed and breakfasts all over the country. We’re gifting our parents with a weekend away. They will definitely need it after helping us with our wedding.
My aunt and uncle: Probably a restaurant gift certificate
My cousin/officient: Gift certificate to her favorite store.
Post # 4
I’ve just started to think about this:
Bridesmaids/groomsmen (3 ea): A gift of some sort worth approx $100-$150 ea
Ushers/personal attendants (2 ea): Gift of approx $50
Parents: Ooh! I like the B&B gift certificate idea! 🙂 Or maybe a certificate to a nice restaurant they wouldn’t already go to. OR, something small, and I”ll buy them the photo album
Officiants: Amex gift cards?
Readers, etc: My wedding is in San Francisco, which requires travel for all, so maybe a San Francisco-themed gift basket
Post # 6
@UpstateCait: What I meant by “the weekend is our gift…” is that since ours is a destination for everyone, and many of our family and friends don’t travel a lot, we wanted to give them the best experience that we could afford. For us that means dinner and drinks for all on Friday and Saturday night and a tour on Sunday. We’re a little tapped out. My feeling was that people would appreciate their vacation (i.e. the experience) more than physical things, but I don’t want anyone to feel slighted because they really did want something to hold in their hand/put on the shelf.
Thanks for sharing what you are giving! I know that people give gifts to these people at weddings, but I haven’t been involved in enough of them to know what is customary to give.