Post # 1
Hey Bees, my aunt is in town from out of province in mid-March so my mom and two aunts are throwing my a bridal shower. My Maid/Matron of Honor and one of my bridesmaids are both 2000 miles away and my other bridesmaid is my Future Sister-In-Law (also a good friend).
So, do I invite Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law or do they have have a shower for their side? Can you invite people who are not invited to the wedding – is that a faux-pas or is that who showers are mainly for?
They’ve asked me to help with a guest list and I have NO idea. All the people who pop into my head first are people who aren’t invited to the wedding, but I don’t want to do that if it’s a bit etiquette no no.
Post # 3
I would not invite people to your shower who are not invited to your wedding. That is a pretty big ettiquette no-no.
No one is expected to give a shower necessarily, so unless your Future Mother-In-Law and Future Sister-In-Law indicated that they wanted to give you a shower, I would invite them to the one your mom and aunts are throwing. You might also want to invite people who are your FMIL’s friends that are coming to your wedding (if you know them well enough to do that).
Post # 4
I thought that the etiquette was that you invite all the girls that you invited to your wedding. By the way, my Fiance says that along with all of our abbreviated terms, we should have another one: “PBENN” which means “Pretty Big Etiquette no-no” an example of this would be:
*Inviting your ex who just got out of prison to the wedding
*Forgetting to send an invitation to your mom
*Wearing a bridal dress as a guest to somebody elses wedding.
Post # 5
I’ve never heard of inviting everyone that’s on your wedding guest list to the shower. If that were the case I would have to invite 200 women to my shower. That would be another wedding! LOL
I agree with jordynrose- that you shouldn’t invite anyone to the shower that isn’t invited to the wedding.
I would invite all bridesmaids regardless of their location. I would also invite your Future in laws. You need to find out if they plan to do a shower too but regardless it is just a nice gesture to include the mother of the bride and mother of the groom at your showers.
Post # 6
I just remembered something…. I tagged along to a bridal shower with my mom. I had a lot of fun, but it was such a bummer that I wasn’t invited to the wedding. Very disappointing. So I wouldn’t invite guests who are not invited unless you want them to feel bad about not getting invited to your wedding…..