(Closed) Who gets invited to rehearsal dinner?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve been to several rehearsal dinners, and none of the vendors (officiant, musicians, photgrapher, etc) were included.  Some people do extend the invitation to wedding guests that have traveled from out of town.

Post # 4
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t think you are required to invite any vendors at all.  The rehearsal dinner is for the wedding party, their spouses and immediate family only.  You don’t even have to invite your immediate family but most people want to.  It is basically a “thank you” dinner to thank those that have helped you with the wedding, not those who you have paid to help you with the wedding.

I am just inviting my wedding party, their spouses, my mom and grandparents, my FI’s mom and the minister.

Post # 5
5786 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have never heard of anyone inviting their photographer/band/etc to the rehearsal dinner. You can also invite immediate family or the out-of-towners but both are optional.

Post # 6
10 posts
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would think maybe to invite the photographer, if anything. I am getting close with mine and I feel like the more she knows our personality the better she will know what kind of photos we want taken. But I would clear this with your FIL’s if they are throwing the dinner for you to make sure there arent too many people.


And my question is should you invite bridal parties’ family if they are travelling from out of town?

Post # 7
353 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

No vendors, but if you are able to extend the invitation further, it’s always nice to be included as an out of town guest.

Post # 10
1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

From the rehearsal dinner’s I’ve attended, it’s always been the immediate families of the bride and groom (including siblings’ spouses and children) and the wedding party, including their spouses and children.  As they’re all coming from out of town, we didn’t think we could say ‘no children’ at the rehearsal dinner.

For mine, we’re having the above people for the first hour and a half or so, then we’re opening it up to our guests as nearly all of them are coming from out of town.  We are doing a very casual Rehearsal Dinner, in a ‘beer and pizza’ sort of way so it should work well.  If you’re having a more formal Rehearsal Dinner, I am not sure having people drop in will work…

Post # 11
841 posts
Busy bee

I think the list you have covers them all. I don’t think I would invite vendors unless (as someone said before) they came from out of town.

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