Post # 1
That’s my first question.
2. What if your families don’t get along?! My mom and dad are going through a bad divorce and both of their sides of the family don’t like each other..then my side of the family and my fiances don’t get along. WHAT DO I DO!?!? I was worried about the wedding day alone and now I’ve got to think about this!!
Post # 3
We’re inviting parents, wedding party and significant others/spouses of all those people. We have a small amount of people coming from out of town, so they will also be invited.
It’s really sad that YOU have to be the one to worry about your grown up families getting along. You would hope they could put their differences aside for one day.
Post # 4
Wedding party and spouses and parents are invited to ours.
I would just let your parents know either they get along for your sake or don’t come.
Post # 5
Thank you both for your help! And yeah, it’s really sad..the eloping idea and/or bouncers crossed my mind 🙁
Post # 6
Rehearsals can involve who you’d like (generally, everyone that’s in the wedding/is rehearsing is invited) but you can make it more of an ‘any out of town guests’ party, or a very small and simple gathering. You can make it what you’d like.
As for your folks, I’d have a talk with them (separately) letting them know that you respect their feelings and that they’re upset, but you expect them both to be adults and either put those feelings aside for the day or be kind enough to not come if they know they cannot show respectful restraint. (Also, ask that this message be passed along to ‘their sides’ if the family feels the need to be involved in the divorce).
Post # 7
A friend of ours was in a similar predicament. She invited only those directly involved in the ceremony and the spouses for the bridemaids and groomsmen. Her dad was not giving her away and so the parents were thought of as very honored guests and that was it. I know somone else who had a kind of cocktail hour where her mom came, then the rehearsal itself and a desert thing after and her dad attended that.
Hopefully, your FH will put aside any hard feelings for the wedding day and be the bigger person for you. Sometimes we can not count on our parents to act like grownups. I agree with the person who said tell them they must behave or stay home.
Post # 8
I was actually thinking of keeping it that way, only inviting people who are invovled with the wedding for the rehersal dinner. The less time all the familys spend together the better…plus I think it’s easier to get along with 200 people at the wedding rather than 20 people at a dinner…Now my question..the grooms family usually pays for the rehersal dinner, and I obviously wouldn’t expect them to if they weren’t invited, but then who covers that? The bride and groom?
Also…I don’t they my parents would be divorced by the time I get married and there’s a no contact order on my dad from my mom..should I talk to to him and tell him if he doesn’t get this divorce under way then I can’t have him there? I don’t think he understands that since he has some control issues..