(Closed) Who gets invited to the bachelorette party?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Who would you put on the guest list for your bachelorette party?

    8 bridesmaids + friends

    Only the 8 bridesmaids

  • Post # 2
    Member
    812 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    It’s her own fault for basically inviting herself to your party. As far as I’ve always been aware, the bachelorette party is just for the bridesmaids and bride, so I’d just keep it to those eight people so that you have a very distinct line as to who’s invited and who’s not. That way she can’t get too upset– it’s not like you invited Random Friends A, B, and C but not her, it’ll just be the bridal party.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1633 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    I’ve never understood a bachelorette to only include BM’s, but other close girlfriends of the bride as well. Can’t tell in this situation whether this friend/friends invited themselves or whether that particular Bridesmaid or Best Man indicated to them that they would be included. The Bridesmaid or Best Man probably should have conferred with you about who you want there first, but I’ll bet she assumed you’d love to have some of your other close friends as well, and started asking about their availability. This is not completely strange if the BM’s have decided to plan the bachelorette, and in fact if they’re the ones hosting then they ultimately get to plan things like where, when, whom.

    Post # 5
    Member
    24 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I would say it’s COMPLETELY up to you. You can also start the party with just your closest girls (your bridesmaids and then open it up to others later on in the night. I opted to just have my bridesmaids for a nice dinner and some drinks and then later on, we rented a party boat to cruise around and opened it up to anyone who would want to join in on the fun. It’s kinda the best of both worlds! We also all wore TaTa Tops (http://www.thetatatop.com) on the boat. It was pretty fun and hilarious. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    812 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    View original reply
    vlouise:  At some point, you have to make decisions and stick to them. You can’t please everyone, so figure out who’s most important to you and focus on them. Make sure that you’re on that list of important people.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2394 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    View original reply
    rileybell:  I friggin love tata tops! lol I want one so bad but I am typically a one piece gal lol 

    Post # 8
    Member
    77 posts
    Worker bee

    I’ve always thought it was BMs + other friends.

    I think it would be really nice if you could include your other friends, especially since some of them were disappointed that they didn’t get to be in the bridal party. 

    If you are worried about drama though, it might be worth chatting to your BMs about your concerns. When they invite the friends in question they could have a private tactful word with them and say that you would love to have them there, but if they think they are going to have issues with the other guests you’ll understand if they don’t come. I know it’s not technically polite to give an invitation with conditions, but under the circumstances I think you’re within your rights. It’s also showing consideration for the other guests present. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    2141 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

    as far as im aware a bacholette is just another name for a hen… if you WANT a small one you could just invite the bridesmaid/mothers but this is a modern-ish thing – orignially ‘shower’ (as americans have) or ‘bottom draw’ (as british USE to have) event would of been for only these women and the whole original point of the hen was that they are simple huge blow outs (in the old days big cake and tea parties, then as it got more modern dancing became fashion and then alcohol) with all your friends to celebrate the end of single life (and much more appropriate to invite friends because its a non gifting event)

    things have changed now, anxous people want small/quiet ones and lots of people want big expensive ones but thats not the original point of them

    Post # 10
    Member
    989 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    I’ve never heard of a bachelorette party being busy for brides maids, but if that’s what you want, you have that right. I had all my friends there, but that’s just me. 

    The topic ‘Who gets invited to the bachelorette party?’ is closed to new replies.

    Find Amazing Vendors