Post # 1
So I have 2 friends that I am inviting to my wedding from college that I have never been that close with. We always ran in the same circle of friends (2 of my bridesmaids are friends with them), and to keep the drama to a minimum, I invited them to my wedding. I only see these girls when our mutal friends are in town; we never talk on our own at all, even if a life changing event happens. Anyways, I heard through the grapevine that they are expecting to get invited (this is all heresay, so I don’t know if it is true). I mentioned it to my Maid of Honor/Sister, and she said that she believes these 2 have every right to believe they were invited since most people who are invited to the wedding on the bride’s side, and is around the bride’s age typically gets invited according to etiquette. Is this the case? Is there any etiquette rule that I don’t know about regarding the bachelorette party? Should I invite these girls? It wouldn’t be the end of the world if I invite them, but I just have such a big family, and then you add in my close friends and I feel like my bachelorette party is going to be huge, and I honestly don’t think I want that.
Post # 3
I don’t think there is any actual etiquette on who should be invited to the bachelorette aside from they should be invited to the actual wedding. If your logic for inviting them to the wedding (to avoid drama) is right wouldn’t not sending them an invite to the bachelorette cause drama? NAd since you said it wouldn’t be the end of the world I say just invite them.
But technically you do not have to invite every female on your invite list to the bachelorette.
Post # 4
Thanks, I understand what you are saying, but I feel like the guest list for the bachelorette party keeps growing and growing, and I was thinking I wanted it to be smaller and more intimate, but I should just suck it up. Thanks!
Post # 5
I did not want to have a huge bachelorette party. I wanted it to be low key and intimate. Only the girls in my wedding party are invited – my sister (MOH) is planning it. My SIL on the other hand had every one shes ever met at her bachelorette party. So its really personal and there are no etiquette rules, I think.
Post # 6
You could justtellyour sister you want a small party and help her create a guest list. That way if it’s small those two girls will hear its small and hopefully relax a bit.
Post # 7
Do what you want for your bachelorette party!
As PP has said, just say it’s small and intimate. For my party, I’m having all my closest friends only come over to my house one evenings for drinks, games and food, then the next night we’re all going out on the town with extra people that I ‘should’ invite. So maybe you could do that if you think it might really cause problems if you don’t invite them? That way you get two parties too 😉
But don’t feel you should have to invite certain people, it’s your last party and you can invite who you want to!
Post # 8
There is no ettiquette for who must be invited to a bachelorette party. The only rule is that you can’t invite anyone to the bachelorette who is not invited to the wedding.
My bachelorette will have about 15 girls. I will not be inviting most of the girlfriends of FI’s/my friends because I only know the dudes, not the ladies.