(Closed) who gets invited to the rehearsal dinner?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

We’re actually inviting the entire guest list – all our friends and family are so great and I want two nights to hang out with them!  We’re doing a BBQ in the park, so it shouldn’t be toooo expensive. We’l also ask the in-town guests (1/3 or so) to bring a dish, potluck style.  No one is uptight or etiquette-y so that shouldn’t be an issue.

We’re asking people to do a LOT of travel to get to us (middle of Wyoming) so it seems right to host them for a couple nights of fun. 

At other weddings I’ve been to, they’ve invited all the out-of-town guests or all the people who are involved in the ceremony (which included us – we were ushers).  I really like the weddings with multiple days of efents 🙂

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Wow…that is a lot…..

We only had the bridal party and parents at ours….

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

we are inviting bride and grooms’s parents as well as grandparents, plus the bridal party (we each have 8) so it’s still going to end up with about 30 people or so.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

We are only having our parents and the bridal party (with their spouses)…I have seen some on here that extend the invite to Out of Town guests, though.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I don’t like those huge rehearsal dinners. So what we are doing is a small rehearsal dinner with parents, grandparents, wedding party(including readers).

Then we are having a small welcome party for out of town guest, mainly because my mom and fmil thought we should host something for them but given that half our guestlist is out of town I would have end up with eighty something plus people. Do what is right for you. I personally like the smaller more intimate rehearsal dinner.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Generally the rehearsal dinner is limited to the wedding party and SO’s,immediate family,  the parents, grandparents,  ushers or readers , bride and groom and sometimes a courtesy invitation to the officiant.

Some couples have takent to inviting all OOT’s but that is not at all necessary.It is also a huge additional expense even for a casual evening. I have been to many Out of Town wedding’s and never been invited to the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We’re going through this right now. In our parents’ day, everyone from Out of Town was invited too, but since now (at least in our circles), most everyone is from Out of Town, this doesn’t really work. 

My Future In-Laws seem to think it’s only appropriate to invite immediate families, grandparents, attendants and dates, aunt, uncles and cousins, so our invite list is looking like 50 or so. Thank goodness we don’t have big families. I don’t love this idea because neither of us is close with most of our aunts, uncles, and cousins, but it’s not my party, so whatever they prefer is fine. 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We’re inviting everyone, but ours is a destination wedding so it’s a welcome dinner rather than a rehearsal dinner per se.  We also have a very small guest list, under 20.  If our wedding was larger and local, we would be having a traditional rehearsal dinner with just family, bridal party, etc.

Some rehearsal dinners almost seem like a second reception anymore and I’ve seen some that upstaged the wedding.  Our welcome dinnner will be nice, but I’m taking care to keep it casual and simple so it doesn’t outshine the reception the next day.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I thought it was just the wedding party and their significant others? And of course the parents

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

we are just inviting our parents, grandparents, the bridal party, and their significant others. there should be about 20 people total.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’re inviting the bridal party and dates, bride and groom’s parents and all out of town guests who will be coming into town the night before the wedding. We’re expecting about 60 people. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are inviting the bridal party- which includes all siblings (and dates), our parents, any other people that have a part in the ceremony (readers, etc), and out-of-town guests since we won’t have too too many.  Probably will be around 50 people total.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Were inviting the bridal party, their spouses and our parents. There will be 10 of us total. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Our rehearsal dinner list is at 50 (wedding list is 150) and thats only the wedding party ans their spouses or dates, both our parents and grandparents, and 2 sets of aunts and uncles who are traveling. Thats it! FI’s parents are paying the bill at Macayos. Will be about $1,000. Its fine with me since that was their only expense and my family spent $6k between my parents and grandparents  My Fiance and I paid the rest. 

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