Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
Okay, lame question, I know, but I really have no idea!
We’re sending out our save the date next month and I’m collecting addresses. We all ready have the guest list set, and we know who is getting +1s.
Do plus ones get put on STDs? For example, would I send an STD to “John Smith” or “John Smith and Guest”?
And what about for families whose adult children get +1s? Would it be sent to “john Smith Family” or “Mr & Mrs. John and Jane Smith, Little John and Guest” ?
Post # 3
You can send them however you feel comfortable, but I sent one to every adult over the age of 18. I did not include children or plus ones.
Post # 4
I think that you can address the STD either way when it comes to +1 “John Doe and Guest” or just “John Doe.” To me, it seems strange to do the STD to “and guest” just because…I dunno, it just seemed strange for some reason.
With children, I just did one STD to “The Doe Family.” I did the 18-year-olds on a case-by-case basis. Those who weren’t living at home got their own; those who were didn’t. That’ll change when it comes to the formal invitation, but I don’t think it’s that big of a deal for Save-The-Date Cards.
The big thing is just DON’T send an STD to anyone that you are on the fence about in terms of inviting. Once they get the STD, they’re on the guestlist. You can still send an invite without the STD, but not the other way around.
Post # 5
I don’t plan to send to “and guest” because I don’t really know yet who their guests will be, and I guess in my mind it is the invited person’s responsibility to keep his or her guest informed.
Since we are doing magnets, I plan to do one per household even if there will be separate invitations going to the adults in the house just because I can’t imagine like three of these magnets on one household fridge! 🙂
Post # 6
We sent them to people as “John Doe” even if we knew John Doe would probably have a plus one. Since it’s hard sometimes to get a confirmation on who exactly the +1 will be, we found it easier to just leave them off and wait until the invites went out.
Post # 7
I didn’t do “and guests” on our save the dates. I care that the person I’m hoping can make it saves the date, I could care less 6-9 months out whether their +1 situation is worked out.
Post # 8
If the +1 was just a random +1, i just addressed it to the person we were actually inviting. If the +1 was also a friend of ours or a steady relationship, we addressed the the STD to both people.
Post # 9
We didn’t put ‘& guest’ on the Save-The-Date Cards but if two people were a couple and we knew both, we put both names on it.
Post # 10
We only put the guest’s name on there if we knew it for the save the dates.