(Closed) Who Gets Save the Dates?

posted 8 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

You can send them however you feel comfortable, but I sent one to every adult over the age of 18. I did not include children or plus ones.

Post # 4
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think that you can address the STD either way when it comes to +1 “John Doe and Guest” or just “John Doe.” To me, it seems strange to do the STD to “and guest” just because…I dunno, it just seemed strange for some reason.

With children, I just did one STD to “The Doe Family.” I did the 18-year-olds on a case-by-case basis. Those who weren’t living at home got their own; those who were didn’t. That’ll change when it comes to the formal invitation, but I don’t think it’s that big of a deal for Save-The-Date Cards.

The big thing is just DON’T send an STD to anyone that you are on the fence about in terms of inviting. Once they get the STD, they’re on the guestlist. You can still send an invite without the STD, but not the other way around.

Post # 5
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t plan to send to “and guest” because I don’t really know yet who their guests will be, and I guess in my mind it is the invited person’s responsibility to keep his or her guest informed.

Since we are doing magnets, I plan to do one per household even if there will be separate invitations going to the adults in the house just because I can’t imagine like three of these magnets on one household fridge! 🙂

Post # 6
3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We sent them to people as “John Doe” even if we knew John Doe would probably have a plus one.  Since it’s hard sometimes to get a confirmation on who exactly the +1 will be, we found it easier to just leave them off and wait until the invites went out.

Post # 7
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I didn’t do “and guests” on our save the dates.  I care that the person I’m hoping can make it saves the date, I could care less 6-9 months out whether their +1 situation is worked out.

Post # 8
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

If the +1 was just a random +1, i just addressed it to the person we were actually inviting. If the +1 was also a friend of ours or a steady relationship, we addressed the the STD to both people.

Post # 9
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We didn’t put ‘& guest’ on the Save-The-Date Cards but if two people were a couple and we knew both, we put both names on it.

Post # 10
4546 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We only put the guest’s name on there if we knew it for the save the dates.

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