I checked in with Peggy Post’s “Wedding Etiquette*, and I think you have all the bases covered now.
* Attendant Gifts (Groom to Bestman, Groomsmen / Ushers AND Bride to Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaids, Jr. Bridesmaids, AND to the Ring Bearer & Flower Girl if you have those)
* Gifts for each other on your Wedding Day – optional, but you’ll feel crummy if you don’t discuss this as a couple beforehand and work out what you plan to do… sucks if he buys you something nice and you don’t get him anything to mark the occasion
* Gifts for Parents – optional, but most couples do do this. Can be done the Day Of the Wedding, or you can get them a nice Thank You after (many couples purchase a “Parent’s Photo Album” from their Photographer for just this reason)
* Gifts for Kindness – Anyone who does something helpful for you as you get ready for the Wedding. BUT in particular HOSTING, they should be given a Thank You Gift (ie Hosting the Engagement Party, a Shower, taking in Out-of-Town Guests etc)
* Miscellaneous Gifts
Wedding Officiants seem to come in 3 formats. Contracted directly by you, Contracted thru the Church, or they are an Ordained Relative or Friend. If the first, you don’t need to do anything other than pay the fee they advertise. If the second, then you need to tip them for their service if a flat rate fee payable to them wasn’t part of the dea for their services (vs the church space) and, lastly, if a Relative or Friend is officiating, then you should offer to pay them, if they won’t accept payment, then a gift is appropriate.
Wedding Helpers – Anyone who did something special for you at the Ceremony or Reception would appreciate a small token of appreciation (besides a Thank You Card). So, Readers, Soloists, Musicians, a Friend who acted as MC, maybe a cousin, neice or nephew who took around the Guest Book etc.
Children – if either of the Bride or Groom have children, then getting them a gift is a way to make them feel included in this special event that brings two families, into one.
Other Relatives (Siblings, GrandParents, GodParents, Special Aunts & Uncles etc) – Often times you’ll want to reach out to others in the family for supporting you as a couple on this joyous occasion. A printed Wedding Photo makes a nice gift to recognize this.
Hope this helps,