(Closed) Who gets the ring?

posted 8 years ago in Legal
  • poll: Who gets the ring?
    Person A : (11 votes)
    30 %
    Person B : (26 votes)
    70 %
  • Post # 3
    18644 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    It depends on the state but some states require it be returned to the purchaser no matter what the circumstances are.

    Post # 4
    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    It depends on the state but only if they take it to court.

    I think if you cheat you ended the engagement. IMO

    Post # 5
    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think person B should get to keep it (especially if they’ve lost deposit money on the wedding).  That’s the price A pays for cheating. 


    Post # 6
    36 posts
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I voted for person B keeping the ring, although I can’t imagine ever wanting to keep the ring if I were person B.

    Post # 7
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    Legally speaking, it depends what state you’re in. In some states a ring is considered a gift… and therefore it stays with Person B regardless of anything. In some states it is considered a contract “I give you ring, you marry me.” If Person B breaks their end of the bargain by calling off the wedding, the contract is broken and the ring goes back to Person A. 

    Interesting to note, in ALL states (that I’m aware of), if person B went through with the marriage and then called things off 1 day later, they keep the ring regardless (the contract being to GET married, not stay that way.)

    Ethically I think it should stay with Person B… Person A really is the one who ended things by cheating. 

    Practically, why would Person B even WANT the ring after what Person A did? Just to be petty? Not sure we should encourage that. 

    Post # 8
    239 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Can’t give any legal opinion, but I would think that if person A cheated, they broke the contract first. For me, monogamy is not exactly fine print in a marriage “contract”, you know? I would think it’s kind of understood. So I think person B should get the ring if they want it.

    Post # 9
    514 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Miss Manners says the ring should be returned in case of a broken engagement.

    However, I think that, if cheated on, you’re entitled to keep the ring, although it would feel really good throwing it at him.

    Post # 10
    2083 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    The noncheater 🙂

    Now I did have a friend that broke off her engagement because her fiance was a lying d-bag, and she KEPT the ring and told him that until he paid her back the 5 grand he owed her (she paid for him out of pocket for his college courses) that she would keep the ring. Now this was apparently his grandmother’s ring and she told him well if they want it back so bad then they’ll loan you the money. Oooooh man I thought that was awesome! This guy really sucked so I was proud of her for standing her ground 🙂

    Post # 11
    1213 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I think that unless it is a family ring that Person B should keep it. Person A broke the engagement by cheating, so tough luck for them! If I were person B I’d sell the ring and go on a nice holiday!

    Post # 12
    16215 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Legally, I don’t know. Morally, Person B shouldn’t have to return the ring to cheating Person A.

    Post # 13
    277 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d give it back, why the f would I want a ring from a cheating dbag?  Just to hold it over his head and get a little revenge?  Eh I don’t have time for that shit, I’d chuck it at his head. 

    Post # 14
    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    @redbullfanatic– i totally agree. i think the *only* reason I’d maybe keep the ring is if I REAAAAAALLLY hated the guy for some reason then maybe (just to piss him off) I’d keep it, sell it, and donate the money to charity. 

    Post # 15
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

    Legally? No idea – but if I were in that situation as person B, I wouldn’t WANT to keep the ring, and I’d give it back.

    Post # 16
    990 posts
    Busy bee

    In My Humble Opinion, person A and B need to come to some sort of agreement.

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