(Closed) Who gets the Save the Dates???

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

In your case, I’d say just the 1st group. You may want to do a Paperless Post for the other folks. Nicer than an emai/facebook message. Laughing

We actually have (for lack of a better term) a B List, and they will not be getting Save the Dates. 

 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I think it’s generally considered to be in bad taste to invite people to the ceremony but not the reception.  Just something to consider. 

 

I would send Save-The-Date Cards to people I was 100% sure I wanted there. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Is the second group people from your church or something like that? In my area/circles, you wouldn’t invite someone to the ceremony but not the reception, unless they were part of the church community. I’m going to assume this is something normal in the context you’re doing it.

I’d send the Save-The-Date Cards only to the first group. For invites, I’d send the first group the full invites and then group 2 something almost more like an announcement – “BruceBanner & BriceBanner will be married on X date at Y Church. You are invited to join us for the ceremony at 4:00” or whatever. Something a little more casual.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@thisisbrucebanner:  Interesting! I don’t want you to give out any info you’re not comfortable with, but could you share what region/state you’re from? I honestly have never heard of inviting people to the ceremony but not reception in the U.S. unless it was people from the church (who are entitled to come to any service at the church).

I think I have heard of this more in Europe though?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia

@thisisbrucebanner:  You are very welcome! It’s all I use for online invites these days, because the invites are BEAUTIFUL, and also, it doesn’t allow your guests to post a snarky/funny/witty comment like Evite. That particular trend was driving me crazy (maybe it was just my friends?)

Anyway, some of them cost $$ to send, but many of them are totally free!

Also, I’ve been envited to just the church before. Usually co-workers or school friends. I don’t think it’s so unusual. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@thisisbrucebanner:   Very cool! Australia definitely has some different customs than the US – the one that stands out in my mind is paying for bridesmaids’ dresses, totally opposite of the US.

Enjoy your planning! Making the Save-The-Date Cards was the thing that made it really feel “real” for me.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Weighing in – I think this might be a generational issue as well, at least in my area (MA/NH).  My mom is a teacher and feels very comfortable attending the weddings of former students without formal invitation. These are often church weddings with an open invitation to the teachers at the school.  Also, in our church, sometimes a couple will put an announcement in the bulletin the week before if they are inviting the whole community to their ceremony.  Similarly, at the wedding of a dear friend several years ago, several of our former teachers attended the wedding but not the reception. 

Among my friends, I haven’t ever attended solely a wedding.  But then again, most of the weddings I have gone to were relatively small friends-and-families only affairs. 

So I’d go for paper invites for people formally invited to both invites and then an open, less formal and perhaps online invitation for people invited to the ceremony. 

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