(Closed) Who gives speeches at our wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I think it all comes down to a matter of preference. I have seen weddings where parents hosted but only the Bridesmaid or Best Man made the speech. Actually come to think of it, all the weddings I been to only the Bridesmaid or Best Man spoke. My Fiance and I are hosting our wedding and so far I only think our Bridesmaid or Best Man will speak. If my sister (MOH) or our parents want to speak then we will let them.

Go with what you and your Fiance want. There really is not wrong way to do it. Just make sure you ask the person if they would do the honour of doing speech then to surprise them.

Post # 4
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997 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

Hi – I really think it’s a matter of preference.  Generally, I’ve seen the father of the bride, the father of the groom, the best man and the Maid/Matron of Honor speak.  But whatever you feel most comfortable with will work.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It’s definitely up to you. For us, we’re keeping it to best man only (and Maid/Matron of Honor if she wants). This is because FI’s mom is crazy and totally embarassed his brother at his wedding by reading a really humiliating poem that she wrote for brother’s new wife. (Long story but I will tell you that the title was "Obey Thy Mother-In-Law.") So we’re not leaving ourselves open to something similar happening at our wedding … we’re telling everyone that if they want to say something, they can do so at the rehearsal dinner, but that we’d prefer to keep the celebration moving at the wedding without getting bogged down by too many speeches.

I’ve been to other weddings where they’ve kind of had an "open mic" and let anyone who wanted to come up to speak. That’s not really the kind of thing that we want but I also know that it’s meaningful to other people. It all depends on what you want!

Post # 6
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

At every wedding I’ve been to the Father of the Bride, the Groom and the Best Man have given speeches. We’ll be asking all those people if they want to speak but it also never occurred to me that I wouldn’t give one. Mr Newt and I are hosting our wedding so I want to thank people personally for being there and helping us. I think tradition is relaxing much more on this these days! 

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