(Closed) Who gives this woman to this man?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Maybe talk to the officiant about having the wording changed around.

For us (since we are walking down the aisle together) we’re actually going to have the preacher have all of our parents stand up with us when we get to the end and say something about “who supports the marriage between this man and this woman…blah blah..” Haven’t hammered down the details yet. But basically, saying they support it, rather than “giving” me away to Fiance. We’re pretty untraditional as well. Just a thought!

Btw – flower/ring princess. 🙂 I just got the cutest, most whimsical picture in my head. ADORABLE!

Post # 4
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1240 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d love to see pictures after the fact! I’d love to see the princesses!

Post # 5
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1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think that would be weird. I think it’s sweet. 🙂

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think it’s super sweet.  Also, both my parents walked me down the aisle, and there was no wording at all about “giving away.”  We just got to the end, I hugged my parents, Darling Husband hugged my parents, then they sat down and he brought me up to the altar.  It was absolutely a sign of support and love, without any of the chattel-like wording.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m totally skipping it – I’m not an object to be given away and the wording is just bleh to me. MY dad will walk me down the aisle, hug me, and take his seat. The question will not be asked at all.

Post # 10
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1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Wonderstruck: I totally agree.. I hate that wording too.  I’m not a cup of sugar being given to a neighbor.. LoL.  Besides, the guy isn’t being “given” away.. so why should I be?  I’ve never liked that.

Anyway, I’d totally skip that part.. or have the “Who supports this marriage?” question that someone else mentioned.

By The Way, Pippy’s ring pillow is ADORABLE!! :o)

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I just went to my cousins wedding and the brides son and future step-son gave her away to be married and then also acted as the ring boys.  I think it can be anyone and I think it’s really sweet that you will walk with her.

I didn’t like the “gave away” part either so we went with “who presents this woman to be married to this man”. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t even like the “who presents this woman” wording.  The man presents himself; why should it be different for the woman?

At my first wedding, the groom’s parents escorted him down the aisle, and my parents escorted me.  There was no “giving away” language.  At my second wedding, my bride and I walked down the aisle together, holding hands.

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