(Closed) who gives toasts?

posted 10 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I think traditionally it is Best Man, Maid/Matron of Honor, and host (father of the bride), but we are only having the Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor toasts. We attended a wedding where the bride and groom both had step-parents and everyone wanted to talk and the bridesmaids gave their own toast, apart from the Maid/Matron of Honor, and the whole thing went on for…ev…er! We wanted to keep the toasts to a minimum because we want more time to dance and have fun. We will open up the rehearsal dinner to anyone who wants to give a toast and tell people that they will be limited on the wedding night.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I’m pushing to be the Best Man only. If our parents want to say something, maybe the rehearsal dinner will be the place to do it. Of course, I may get overruled.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

At my friend’s wedding the Maid/Matron of Honor (myself) and the BM gave our toasts at the rehersal dinner. It was very fun and very intimate. She did not want the toasts to happen at the wedding because she was afraid they would distrupt the flow.

At my sister’s wedding, on the other hand, my dad and the Bridesmaid or Best Man gave toasts at the wedding. She is much more traditional.

Really I think it just depends on who you as the couple would like to have speak on your day.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I really like the idea of lots of toasts at the rehearsal, but I don’t know how to ask for them.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You can include a special card in the rehearsal dinner invites, or if it’s people you see often, ask them in person. My Boyfriend or Best Friend just told me she would like to have the toasts and the rehearsal (to make things more personal), and said she would be thrilled if I spoke. How could I say no?!  I really loved giving the toast at the rehearsal dinner. The love and excitement that was in the room was just awesome, and you also had everyone’s attention. Another bonus.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

What I’ve seen is where the Maid/Matron of Honor or the Bride’s sister (or I suppose Groom’s sibling, I’ve never been to a Rehearsal Dinner for a groom before) contacts the BM’s before the Rehearsal Dinner and requests that they make a toast if they’d like.  I know my sister (co-MOH) wants the contact info for all the bridal party, so I’m not entirely sure but I think she’ll be doing something similar.  Another friend of mine who had a very limited family only bridal party contacted me directly to ask me to make a toast at the reception.  So I think it really depends on you…but I personally think the idea of a sibling or Maid/Matron of Honor asking is kind of sweet.

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