(Closed) Who goes in the receiving line?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Over here, what we do is, just bride and groom stand at the church doors and shake hands and have v quick few words with everyone as they leave. Takes what, ten fifteen mins? And means when you get to the reception venue, you’ve talked to everyone so you can relax and go take pics or whatever.

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

i dont plan to have a receiving line at all.. will just meet n greet at the reception,

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Most receiving lines I’ve seen have had the bride and groom and their parents. They did not have the wedding party. I guess this would depend on the size of your wedding party and the amount of guests you plan on having. The more people, the longer it takes. I plan on having between 250-300 guests and my FH’s parents are divorced and both remarried (and don’t get along at all). So, I think that it would take too long to get 300 people through a recieving line of 8 people, so FH and I are thinking we may just do our recieving line with just us (bride and groom) in it and no one else.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Most receiving lines I have seen (and I haven’t seen one in a while) are, as previous posters said, bride/groom and parents only!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

The whole wedding party would take a loooong time to get through.  It really just needs to be the couple and whoever is hosting, ie the parents.  Anyone else is bonus.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

At a minimum (at any event, not specific to a wedding) the hostess and the guests of honour; the host is optional. It used to be that meant the bride’s mother as hostess; the bride, the bridegroom, and the groom’s parents as guests of honour; and optionally the bride’s father; and the wedding party if the bride’s mother considered them too to fall into the “guests of honour” category. Nowadays it might be the same people, but with the bride in the role of hostess and her parents as guests of honour along with her new inlaws.

What you really need to make a receiving line function smoothely, is a very *short* line of guests-of-honour, and a committed circulating company of sophisticated social mavens to whom each arriving guest can be introduced at the end of the receiving line, who gather the new arrivals up and introduce them to a few more people so that they can get integrated into a conversation-circle. Most guests willl already know half the people there, but the occasional lonely wall-flower can be taken care of, and the line-slowing gossip can be moved along, if you have some old-fashioned guests in your company who recognize this as part of their social duty at a formal reception.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

what is a receiving line?

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@JennyChicago:  A receiving line is a really efficient way to get through the obligation of “saying hi” to everyone who came, as an alternative to hoping you get a chance to chat with each guest at the reception.  There are two places I’ve heard of doing receiving lines: (1) just outside the church doors so everyone walks past you and gives you a hug as they leave after the ceremony, and (2) just inside the reception hall as people walk in – requires you to already be at the reception when your guests arrive.  You literally just line up with your parents and let the guests flow past you.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I went to one wedding where the whole wedding party was in the receiving line.  It was very awkward.  I didn’t know any of the bridesmaids, so what do you say to them?  Congratulations?  Nice to meet you?  How do you do?

My fiance was one of the groomsmen.  So I got to formally shake his hand although I came to the wedding with him as his date.  Plus, the guests were lined up forever. By the time I finally got to the receiving line, half of the guests had already left the ceremony venue.

So if you ask me, I am voting for B&G only, or with their parents. 🙂

I think we will skip the receiving line altogether and instead go from table to table during the reception, to greet everyone.  I’ve been to weddings where the b&g opted to do this. And it felt much more personal.  But then again, I am not a big fan of formal receiving lines to begin with.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

We will NOT be having a receiving line. The wedding I was apart of last year took forever to leave the church because of it. She invited over 200 people, and it took almost an hour to get out of the church because of it! And then we had to do pictures. So we were late to the reception. I think it’s best to have a meet and greet with everyone at the reception, once everyone gets settled in, walk around to the tables, and thank people for coming.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

My BMs straight up told me they don’t want ot be in the receiving line so I won’t make them. I’m sure the groomsmen won’t miss it either. We’ll do, Fiance and I and our parents as long as they want to do it. I think it is a nice way of seeing everyone and thanking them for coming before leaving for photos and then getting overwhelmed with the reception program.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

bride, groom, parents of bride and groom.  that’s it.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’ve never seen anyone but bride and groom and maybe once or twice, the bride’s parents in the receiving line.  I also think it would be kind of awkward to have the whole bridal party because like one of the pps said, everyone won’t know the people in your bridal party and won’t really have anything to say.  Then again, I always feel awkward as a guest in a receiving line and just want to get out of there, and didn’t do one myself, so what do I know? lol

Post # 16
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Busy bee

In your situation, keep it to you and Fiance and then parents. Simplifies things and lets your bridal party circulate.

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